Day by day we parents face varied and complex situations in the upbringing and education of our children that we often do not know how to handle. One of them is when children vomit, supposedly, to get attention . What is behind this behavior? Why do you need to draw attention in this way? Have they
Day by day we parents face varied and complex situations in the upbringing and education of our children that we often do not know how to handle. One of them is when children vomit, supposedly, to get attention.
What is behind this behavior? Why do you need to draw attention in this way? Have they learned that if they vomit we pay more attention to them or perhaps they have observed that through this type of behavior they get what they want or avoid something they hate? What should parents do in these circumstances: ignore the behavior or attend to it and act?
What to do if our children vomit to get attention
Parents move between these two dilemmas. We do not know exactly what to do because it is really very shocking to see how our son vomits to get something he wants or wants to avoid coming to believe or think that everything is a strategy to manipulate us.
Ignoring is not the solution. When reading about this problem we will see how many professionals with a more behavioral line will advise us to act as with tantrums: clean the child and ignore the vomit. They will insist that we must avoid the child learning to get what he wants through this type of behavior and that, therefore, the best thing is to ignore the vomiting. However, if we ignore only forget to solve the real problem, which in no case is vomiting. When we focus on ignoring the vomit our child is provoking, we focus only on the behavioral expression of a deeper problem. We are left with the child vomiting and
we look for him to stop doing it forgetting what is really happening to our son : why he vomits, what he intends to achieve, what he needs, etc.When a child vomits to call, supposedly, attention must be made to a deeper analysis and see exactly when and why those vomiting occur. We must
discover if they are provoked to avoid going to school, not to stay alone at night, etc. Put another way, when the child vomits we should not look for what to do to stop doing it if we do not find out what is the cause that leads him to act this way to solve it.
Seen in this way, it becomes evident that ignoring is not the solution to the problem. Ignoring alone creates more suffering. When a child vomits, supposedly, to get attention
he does not try to manipulate us, he only wishes that a situation that generates discomfort disappears. A situation that does not know how to verbalize and express because it is still too small to know how to do it. It is our task to discover what it is and to give it a solution. At this point the vomiting will end. Meanwhile you have to act with a lot of patience, love and tranquility. No screaming, punishments or reprimands. It is true that this procedure can be longer and more laborious but it is the most favorable for the emotional and psychological development of the child.