Many times they talk about the negative consequences of using an authoritarian or too demanding educational style with their children ... And it is said that this type of children who receive this education learn to be tyrants . As a consequence of having received this type of education, a type of '
Many times they talk about the negative consequences of using an authoritarian or too demanding educational style with their children ... And it is said that this type of children who receive this education learn to be tyrants .
As a consequence of having received this type of education, a type of 'modern' parents may appear who think that limits, schedules and rules can traumatize children by taking their own experiences as a reference. And, generally, authority is confused with authoritarianism. When authority is exercised, the child is indirectly told that parents know what is best for them. And before exercising this authority, a bond of trust has been created and a framework where content is felt, a framework that does not exist if we are too permissive. Consecuencias 6 consequences of too permissive parents with children
Being permissive involves not putting limits and that means not offering margins where you can experiment with your freedom and this will have consequences:
Risk of having behavior problems a cause of not having set rules and limits on time. Sin 2. Without the good guidance of the parents and too freely the children will not learn enough social skills
to solve the problems on their own. 3. Children can have problems of self-esteem and insecurity. El 4. Being permissive brings with it the lack of routines
that make children turn into lazy children without awareness of their responsibilities. Además 5. In addition, the lack of limits will make the children
impulsive, immature and uncontrolled . 6. When there is an obsession on the part of parents to give their children everything they did not have as children. Love is confused with constantly giving
all the whims to children. Thus, children get used to doing what they want and lose sight of the authority referenceRules and limits, far from being negative, are totally necessary since it is the way for children to understand the consequences of their actions , to be able to instill values to them.
Therefore, it is essential that there is a balance between permissive education and authoritarian education, setting standards and limits but with flexibility, affection and respect for children. The reasons that lead parents to be too permissive Having 'suffered' an education based in an extreme way on authoritarianism may cause us to be too permissive when it comes to us to act in the role of parents. But there are other reasons that lead us to be overly permissive parents with our children:
- Parents whose children are no longer planned or who have a significant difference in age with their older siblings. Sometimes parents are older or tired because of the attrition of their first children's education.
- Very busy parents: those who do not have the time to act as parents so the feeling of guilt overwhelms them. Sometimes, in addition to being permissive, they are compensators.
- When they become parents when they are very young and want to continue living to the rhythm of their single friends, leaving the children under the care of someone else
By being permissive with the little ones,
we will be impulsive and intolerant, among other consequences
. It is important as parents that we teach children the necessary skills to socialize since we are not on the right track. It is in the childhood stage the right moment to correct this type of behavior, since when they are teenagers their personality will be completely formed and it will be much more difficult.
To do this, in addition to having patience, tranquility, being reasonable and thoughtful, we must set limits without being aggressive but firmly.