Parents' mistakes that cause low self-esteem in their children
Sometimes parents are responsible ya, because of their actions or omissions, the low self-esteem of their children. In Guiainfantil.com we tell you some of the mistakes that parents make and that lower the children's self-esteem so you can avoid them. In addition, we give you tips that you can put i
Sometimes parents are responsible ya, because of their actions or omissions, the low self-esteem of their children. InGuiainfantil.com we tell you some of the mistakes that parents make and that lower the children's self-esteem so you can avoid them. In addition, we give you tips that you can put into practice so that you can
stop lowering the child's self-esteem and increase and strengthen it .What you should never do because it lowers children's self-esteem
Children who have low self-esteem do not feel well integrated, loved or accepted in their family, and sometimes, seek to belong to other environments that are not always the most appropriate. In addition, they often have problems at school because they do not have enough confidence in themselves to face the challenges. To prevent your children from having low self-esteem and having these and other problems, you should:
1. Do not criticize them with the verb 'to be':
if the child behaves badly, you should never say things like 'you are stupid', or ' you're bad 'because that way what we do is make the child believe that he really is bad or stupid. No 2. Never criticize in public: When the child has a bad attitude in public, wait to scold him in private and do not reprimand his actions in front of others. No 3. Do not insist on the past
: we can no longer change the bad actions that children have committed, so instead of insisting on what they did, we should give them guidelines or ideas of how we want them to behave next time. 4. Never compare:
with the brother, cousin or friend. Each person is unique and has their talent and it is everyone's job to find and contribute to the world. To compare what he does is to ignore the child's talent. No 5. Do not justify the past with the present:many parents tend to justify their attitude towards their children because they themselves were treated that way. For example, in the case of physical punishment they tend to justify it with phrases like 'my parents gave me lashes and nothing happened to me, so I spank my son'. Today we know much more about psychology or emotional management than was previously known, so it is a poor excuse not to want to learn to improve. Tener 6. Have low self-esteem:
If in a while you do not manage to raise the self-esteem of your child, perhaps it is necessary to review your own. How much do you love or accept yourself unconditionally? Reinforcing and stimulating one's self-esteem is basic because for children we are role models. Video on how not to damage the self-esteem of children
Matti Hemmi Self-leadership specialist
