The topic of this article is controversial because talking about parents who manipulate their children is not easy and surely many of you will read this article with disbelief and skepticism. But, the manipulation of parents to children is an undeniable fact that unfortunately happens very frequentl
The topic of this article is controversial because talking about parents who manipulate their children is not easy and surely many of you will read this article with disbelief and skepticism. But, the manipulation of parents to children is an undeniable fact that unfortunately happens very frequently.
It is true that the great majority of fathers and mothers feel an unconditional love towards their children and take care to educate them to be independent, self-sufficient and responsible adults. But, sometimes it is the case of parents who manipulate their children.
Characteristics of parents who manipulate their children
The most common is that parents offer their children everything that is in their hands and genuinely try to give everything for them.
Even parents with better intentions end up making mistakes, this is absolutely normal and we should not worry about it. But, on other occasions, we find parents who go beyond the daily mistakes we all make during their upbringing and perform toxic behaviors that damage the child's emotional well-being and self-esteem.
The manipulation that parents exercise on their children is not harmless but on the contrary it alters the emotional well-being of the children. But, how are those parents who manipulate their children?
- Victims are victimized in order to have at all times the care and affection of the child assured. They use their situation of vulnerability to keep the child close to them: "You can go to your friend's house but if I lose my sugar I will not have anyone to help me call the doctor", "you can go this weekend with your father but I'm going to be very sad "," your father does not love you, he does not give me money so he can buy you things ".
- They protect children excessively. They try to instill in the children negative emotions (for example, fear) in order to keep them at their side and thus ensure that they are not self-sufficient and independent children. They are parents who feel alone and do not want their son to fly away from them: "The camp is dangerous, if you go you may have an accident and have to send you to the hospital. The best thing is that you do not go "," the class work I have to help you do it, you will not know ".
- Excessive control. Intrude into the child's private life to have as much information as possible about what the child does. This information is often used against him: "The movie you saw with your friends, I would have liked to see it too, it seems that you like doing things with them more than me."
- Generate guilt. They make the child feel guilty so that he stops doing what he had planned: "You can go to play but I would not feel very good going to play if you have an exam tomorrow".
These are just some examples in which it is clear how parents often manipulate their children. However, there are many other situations in which parents make use of manipulation to manage the little ones at their whim.