How to educate the child so that he does not allow himself to be manipulated by friends
In all groups there are leaders and people who receive orders. Not everyone can be leaders and that does not have to be a problem. The problem begins when your child does things he does not want to do or behaves differently when he is with other people. The solution to this problem is to know the pe
In all groups there are leaders and people who receive orders. Not everyone can be leaders and that does not have to be a problem. The problem begins when your child does things he does not want to do or behaves differently when he is with other people.
The solution to this problem is to know the personality of your child and promote a home environment that offers you tools to face children who have a stronger personality than yours. That's why today we offer you some simple keys so you can help:
How to make your child not get carried away by other children
Know your personality to reach them. Maybe the problem is easier for you than your son, however, if you attack him saying that he should not join that friend of his, you will only get the opposite reaction. Analyze if you have any of these features that we discover below to know what you have to influence more with him at home:
- Calm children trying to avoid conflicts.
- Indecisive children and not very autonomous.
- Children who think they will not have friends if they refuse to do a certain activity or say something contrary to their friend.
If your child belongs to the first group, it is best that you try to avoid being strict and authoritarian, that does not mean that you do not set limits. Set limits, but negotiate with him and above all teach him to defend against the contrary opinions of others or criticisms and know how to say "no" when something does not like him clearly and firmly. For example, if he wants to go to the park even though it's raining, do not say a resounding "no", listen to him and then tell him it's a great idea and the next day he'll do well. If you see that it is a power struggle and you are too strict and not very flexible, you will end up having a submissive son who not only obeys you but all those who have a strong personality. If you need your child to be more autonomous, avoid being too overprotective and let him make his own mistakes. For this, it is best to have responsibilities at home and not supervising all the time. Trust him and give him the security that he lacks. To do this,
try to let it face the task and when finished, review it, but do not do it yourself . That way, you will be less afraid of making mistakes. At the beginning, it is basic to begin to propose alternatives: do you feel like going to the park or watching a movie? And later that he chooses between the different options. Above all you have to avoid the classic "I do not know" or "I do not care" or "Choose you".If you think he behaves differently because he wants to be accepted, he reinforces his personality and the tastes of your son. Poses activities that you know you enjoy with them and do activities where everyone talks about how you are and what you like to do. For example, what makes you happy? What do you not like? Sometimes we do not stop to delve into ourselves and get to know each other, so generating spaces to do so can help you have clearer ideas.