We all need the affection of others. Physical contact is beneficial and necessary for the emotional, physical and cognitive development of children, especially in the early stages of life. Body contact is also a need of parents, in fact it is a way of communicating intimately and intensely. Instead,
We all need the affection of others. Physical contact is beneficial and necessary for the emotional, physical and cognitive development of children, especially in the early stages of life.
Body contact is also a need of parents, in fact it is a way of communicating intimately and intensely. Instead, we can meet children who reject physical contact such as hugging or kissing.
Why some children reject physical contact
It may happen that some children reject physical contact such as kissing or hugging for various reasons: Porque - Because it is
going through an evolutionary phase: As children grow, among the three and the six years, the children begin to be autonomous and the rejection towards the physical affection is one of the ways in which it shows its independence. Por - Because of thelittle physical contact received from their parents:
Many parents, perhaps due to lack of time, because of their lack of caresses, or because that is their character and temperament do not show too much love to their children. In this way, by not showing affection towards their children they are making it difficult for them when they are older they can not relate with ease and they do not learn to give and receive affection with the appropriate corporal expressivity and spontaneously. -The child is shy
and feels embarrassed interacting with other people. - Expresses this behavior as a way to capture the attention of parents. All children are different. The physical contact that the children may wish will vary in each one, and there is no "normal" amount of affection at the universal level.
Children who do not want to receive kisses and hugs as they grow In this case, children still need affection and affection, but they do not show it so easily. This happens because:
- As they grow they
begin to control more being less spontaneous
and many more shameful. They are learning to manage their emotions.
- They feel more independent and older and rejection is a way to make them notice to show that they are no longer babies.
- The child has emotional discomfort and uses this rejection to "call attention" to something that has bothered him or her from their parents. Avoiding physical contact is usually a sign of jealousy or envy towards a little brother who equates all attention. What parents can do when children reject physical contact Many parents make the mistake of forcing the child into physical contact when they reject it because it is not "normal" for them. This is not the best way to act. When the child feels rejection it is important that parents follow these tips:
Respect the child
. We must respect their criteria and their way of expressing themselves with the environment. In short, understand that they are not properties and if they are free people.
- Be understandingwith your attitude changes.
- Physical contact changes in the form of recognition. If the child rejects hugs and caresses, parents can show signs of affection in the form of smiles, compliments, sharing playtime, etc. The child must always feel loved. - Do not use emotional blackmail to force the child when he does not want physical contact.