Slow parenting or slow parenting. Keys to a slow simmering

When was the last time you contemplated a sunset? When was the last time a five-minute conversation was transformed into a two-hour conversation? When was the last time you narrated a story to your children with complete calm and without hurry? Has it happened to you that you do not control time but

We are invested in a culture that pays homage to the quick, the easy, away from the enjoyment and joy of being able to perform each action in a slow way, such as enjoying each bite of your favorite food or sitting for hours contemplating how your children play without checking the computer or cell phone. This is what the Slow aging or Slow partenting, a model of slow aging, tries to combat.

What is Slow parenting?

This thought, has handles in the Slow movement, which is born as a counter response to the opening of a McDonald's in Piazza di Spagna in the city of Rome, thus creating the organization Slow Food, oriented to the recovery of the cultural roots of Italian food, where the pleasure of eating without hurry was prioritized. This cultural current focuses on calming or re-emphasizing human activities in order to have control of time and savor life.

This slow movement was expanding the horizons reaching areas such as clothing, tourism, cities and Slow cr upbringing. Of this last one I want to refer given his wide wealth to learn to calm down and let us surprise by the adventure of being parents.When we manage to stop the rush in the upbringing, inborn abilities emerge in the bond with our children, which are related to intuition and empathy. And this is necessary because we want to savor life through connecting with the present, focusing our attention on the daily experiences of others within the here and now.

How to implement the Slow Parenting movement with our children

- Avoid comparison:

Many parents often compare their children with other children, however, this is a mistake given that it can directly affect self-esteem and safety. Do not forget that each child is different and has a different rhythm of development. - Do not hyperstimulate children:

early stimulation is fashionable. While it has undeniable benefits, it also has the danger of overstimulating and not learning to read the educational needs that children have in those areas that have weaknesses or that require more help. This is more graphical, giving us this example: If the trees are given more water than they need, their roots are likely to rot. No - Do not rush the development in the children: the invitation is to learn to be surprised with the achievements that our children are acquiring and not to be anguished by what they can not yet achieve, experiencing the development as a marathon race. It is necessary to respect the rhythm of growth, because development is not a linear process, but rather it is a spiral. This means that sometimes children will go back in the course of development in order to move forward. For example, to walk you need to crawl, but even when you have already started to walk, sometimes you crawl again; because they need to look for security in the actions that give them security.

- Learn to flow. Positive psychology investigated the mental state when a person is completely immersed in the activity that runs, what I call under the concept of Flow, which consists of completely losing the notion of time and premium plus the process of activity than the objective. It was discovered that the more flow activities, people increase their state of satisfaction and happiness. During the upbringing it is essential to be able to discover what actions make you flow being this crucial time to relax and avoid stressing with the tasks of the upbringing. It can be jogging, cooking, painting, drawing, riding a bicycle. The possibilities are endless!

- Disconnect from technology: While you are with your children, forget about your mobile phone, computer, email and television. Learn to merge into a "be receptive" for your child. This means being able to grasp the subtleties of their achievements as well as the skills that need more stimulation. In this way, it will be easier for you to get to know him, as well as help him manage his negative emotions.

- Build a serenity diary: it is essential to calm down to calm down. From that premise, it is crucial to manage strategies that as parents help us to know how to deal with the concerns. From this perspective, the power to make this newspaper allows us to give ourselves a time of serenity and calm. The idea is to register all our fears and concerns, so that later you can find an hour a day to read them and think about them. In this way, by dedicating a limited time during the day, will stop being diffuse thoughts and thus increase welfare and creativity to solve them.

But remember the following before starting any of these tips. It is important that you want to contemplate a sunset again, or have that talk beyond five minutes or want to - definitely - stop being a slave of time and feel free if it consumes your present. The Slow Crianza movement is looking for you to feel again what it means to live again and see how your child enjoys this fact with you and your neighbors.