Changes in the behavior of the child before the arrival of a brother

The arrival of a new baby supposes an immense happiness, but also important changes in the structure and family routines. The arrival of a new sibling assumes that our day to day is completely altered, new schedules, new routines, new needs to attend ... And, the older brothers, although excited and happy for this new member of the family, are the ones more may suffer this change in family structure. This is how puede can change the behavior of the child before the arrival of a brother.

Changes in the child before the arrival of a brother For the children, the arrival of a brother supposes a new role in the family, a change of structure and roles at home. If he is an only child, he becomes the oldest child, and if he is the only child, he becomes the "middle child". In addition, we parents have to distribute our attention and our affection to a new member of the family, and it is the baby who monopolizes the attention of the adults in the environment.

Presumably, these changes may affect the behavior of the brother or older brothers, awakening certain "jealousy" in them that entail or may lead to changes in their behavior and even have regressions, and return to stages that seemed to have passed. All these changes that occur in the child are normal and disappear over time, but it is important that parents give them a hand:

- It is not unusual that there are children who with the arrival of a brother

begin to speak as if they were little ones.

- They claim us for tasks for which they were autonomous. For example, children who know how to eat alone and suddenly ask us to feed them because they do not know. Or children who slept alone and now complain that we sleep with them or ask us to sleep. These regressions to a past stage are the result of the thought of the child who believes that if the baby is given more attention, then behaving like babies will also pay attention to them. - The child may have a more irritable character o, or be more sensitive and cry easily or get angry for no apparent reason. It is the result of the emotional tension they are experiencing, and that they do not know how to manage, since they do not have the necessary tools to do so.

- There are times when the child suddenly starts to

not want one of the parents to take care of him . For example, I do not want dad to put me to bed or feed me and I want him to be a mom, or on the contrary, it can happen that "they do not want" mom and all the time claim the dad to do everything with them. Tam - Nor is it strange that children want tobother their little brothers

, take their pacifiers off, or wake them up, or even scold them as if they were "their parents". All these behaviors are nothing more than calls for attention, and we should not be alarmed. The important thing is how we manage this jealousy in the older siblings, since to a large extent, the performance of the parents depends on the attenuation or aggravation of that behavior.How to help the child before the arrival of a brother

- Prepare the older brother and make him share in the arrival of the new brother.Participate in the preparation of baby's things, choose a toy or some clothes for your little brother.

Maintain the routines of the elderly

as much as possible. If we read him a story before going to sleep, and now we do not because we do not have time with the baby, he will feel very displaced and will blame the brother of the situation. - Avoid "idealizing" the benefits of having a brother, vas (you will be able to play with him, and you will have a friend, and you will help him a lot of things) since the immediate reality is that all those great things are going to take to arrive, since the baby at the beginning, is not a good playmate. - Ignore their bad behaviors and

reinforce the good ones. - Remind him of all the things we can do with him and not with the brother. -

Dedicate your moments in exclusivity, (the bathroom, take him to play ...) and that mom and dad go alternating, so that they are moments with both of them.

- We can involve you in the tasks

of baby care and make you see that your help is very important.

- Never compare the brothers, under no circumstances and avoid that phrase so typical of ... "You are the oldest, take care of your brother, son do not do that your little brother ... be careful with your brother who is small ..."