Tips to improve and train resilience in children

I want to explain to you in the simplest way that is the meaning of a term that is sounding a lot lately: resilience. Imagine a pencil that I cut in half. What happen? that breaks and will no longer return to its primary state. It may be that you hit it with glue or zeal, that you try to put it toge

I want to explain to you in the simplest way that is the meaning of a term that is sounding a lot lately: resilience.

Imagine a pencil that I cut in half. What happen? that breaks and will no longer return to its primary state. It may be that you hit it with glue or zeal, that you try to put it together, but it will not return to its previous state .Now imagine a bamboo cane, we try to leave it, we bend it but it always returns to its previous form.

If we transfer it to people, the pencil would be a non-resilient person, and the bamboo would be a resilient person, a person who adapts to the changes and manages them appropriately. How can we

improve and train resilience in children ?Tricks to improve and train resilience in children La "The human capacity to

assume with flexibility

extreme situations and to put on them is resilience." Also thanks to this ability we can face crises, traumatic situations, and even discover in our resources that we thought we did not have to face these situations. Therefore resilience is something that we can develop. It is good to train these children in these 3 very easy but basic aspects, in order to develop this capacity in them. 1.

Teach him to know more.

That he knows his limits, his virtues, his emotions, his feelings, etc ... I propose the technique of the "Ketchup boat"; I asked that if it were a Ketchup boat, what ingredients should we buy and why not? In this way he is invited to deepen his inner self, analyze himself and do self-criticism. 2. Teach her to be more flexible and relativize

. We have to teach them to be flexible, to improve their adaptation. For this I propose the Technique of Consequences. I invited him to think of a concern that for him or her is important enough; Suppose you are going to suspend English, then we ask you to write the things you do not want to happen in your life, and surely write something similar to: I do not want to die, I do not want my parents to separate, I do not want to be sick, etc ... Once you have written it, we relate it to your concern:- If you suspend English you will die ?, obviously not.

- If you suspend English will your parents be separated ?, obviously not.

- If you suspend English will you get sick ?, obviously not.

In this way we confront our children so that they "calibrate what is really important", relativize and adapt according to the importance of the circumstances or situations.

What we should also teach you is that suspending probably responds more to a lack of attitude or responsibility than to other causes.