The importance of assertiveness and how to work with children

In some of the times when you have had to reprimand your children, have you finished with the feeling of having overreached, but at other times you think you have been little serious ? In short, do you stay with the impression that you have passed or you have fallen short? Surely yes. Be that as it

In some of the times when you have had to reprimand your children, have you finished with the feeling of having overreached, but at other times you think you have been little serious? In short, do you stay with the impression that you have passed or you have fallen short? Surely yes.

Be that as it may, if you are identified in either of the two extremes, your communicative attitude has not favored the personal relationship with your child. Virtually always in the middle term is virtue, and in this case the middle term is assertiveness. The importance of assertiveness with your children Assertiveness is a communicative ability that allows us to defend our rights and express our opinion, being free, without being aggressivewith others and without being passive with ourselves.

Assertiveness allows

to relate to people in a correct and healthy way, favoring personal relationships. Children are usually assertive, the problem begins when we start to become young and adults, we have a need for social acceptance and the surrounding environment, and we begin to make decisions based on what others will think or feel, whether I say Yes, as if I say no.

It is at that moment when we think more about the other person than about ourselves, and we begin to lose the value of assertiveness. How to work assertiveness with children There are tipos 3 types of people

that we should know. - Passive style people:

They are people who act without defending their interests, their goals, or their emotions. By not showing their opinions or disagreements, people often take advantage of them. - Aggressive style people:

People who act without taking into account the feelings of others. They threaten they insult, fight or shout, they always believe they are right and are often rejected by people.

- Assertive style: They are people who act respecting themselves and others. They are adequate in their way of expressing themselves, they are correct,

coherent , complete, clear, sincere and concise. They are people who are usually accepted in groups and in social relationships, since emotionally they are not in debt to anyone. Therefore, parents should educate our young and pre-adolescent children to maintain and have the

value of assertiveness para, for this we must make them aware of their decisions and comments if they are passed, as in the style aggressive ; they stay by default, as people of a passive style do; or if they tend to the middle term which is the desired

assertiveness .