Bad children or good children from birth, is it possible?

Are there bad children? Can the child be born with a predetermination to exercise evil? Can we change him with a good education? When the child does not want to eat, he reveals himself to us, he questions us, he puts us in evidence in front of others, or he refuses to obey, we say that the child is

Are there bad children? Can the child be born with a predetermination to exercise evil? Can we change him with a good education? When the child does not want to eat, he reveals himself to us, he questions us, he puts us in evidence in front of others, or he refuses to obey, we say that the child is bad ; whereas if it behaves in a correct way, it is docile, and obedient, we label it good. There are different currents of thought about it, although most psychologists argue thatthere are no bad children or good children from birth.

There are no bad children or good children from birth In ancient times it was thought that

children were born wild

and bad by nature, and we were the parents who educated them to live in society , shaping their selfish minds towards coexistence . Todaythere is a psychological current

that also supports that childrenare born good or bad according to their genetics . They defend that a part of the personality of the child is innate to the individual and that, therefore, the badness, the egoism, the tendency to lie, etc., can be innate in the child, and the parents must correct it.However,most psychologists

agree that there are no bad children or good children from birth , but that we are the adults who are around them, who are labeled by their behavior. Thismore positive branch

of psychology, defends that the child has not developed his personality until age 18, so it is impossible to classify a child as "bad". Moreover, he insists that we adults are the ones who mistake a concrete behavior with the child's personality;; that is, if a child disobeys us, we say that it is bad, when it is really having an inappropriate behavior, even if it repeats itself in time. This is a way of acting, not a way of being. These labels influence very negatively on the child, who ends up assuming his role of "bad or good" because others define him that way; this is what is known as the Pygmalion Effect. This effect reveals that the belief that one person has over another can influence the behavior of this other person. And, on the other hand, adults

we will not treat on equal terms a child to whom we have assigned the bad label to a good one. A child to whom we continually remind him of his label, whatever it may be, will end up assuming it and behaving as others expect him to do, therefore we will be reaffirming the behavior that we wanted to eradicate.

What should be done when the child behaves badly? What parents and teachers commonly call "misbehaving"

is usually about behavior that

challenges authority, crit criticizes our decisions, refuses to obey. It is true that these behaviors must be corrected to some extent, since the child must be accepted by the rest of society aprender and learn to live with their teachers and friends, but it must never be done with force or revenge " If you make me suffer, I will make you suffer. "Normally, a challenging child is one who questions things, asks questions and challenges us, and those are behaviors that we will value in the future , when he is an adult. Therefore, he is a child who usually responds better to positive stimuli, pacts and dialogues. They tend to be children who want attention, who demand more dialogue with parents que, who want explanations of how the world works. Thus, parents will have to have more patience and make a greater effort to explain things to them

, one and a thousand times, dedicate more time, set an example and never label him. They should treat their behaviors as something isolated, and attend to the concrete behavior. On the other hand, we must take into accounthow complicated adults are

: on the one hand we ask the child not to question our authority, to be moldable, to obey what we ask without questioning, but we also want him to return independent, self-critical, questioning the rules as part of their personal growth, que and do not duck the head, then do we really think that these behaviors are bad or would it be better to educate more annoying children but with a freer thought? Everyone who decides for himself.