School harassment: is it convenient to change the school from the child?

Bullying is a nightmare for children and parents who suffer from it and in most cases parents do not know very well how to act. It is a situation that generates a lot of stress, anguish, anxiety, feelings of guilt ... The intervention in a case of bullying is delicate and involves both the bullied c

Bullying is a nightmare for children and parents who suffer from it and in most cases parents do not know very well how to act. It is a situation that generates a lot of stress, anguish, anxiety, feelings of guilt ...

The intervention in a case of bullying is delicate and involves both the bullied child and his family as well as the school as well as the bully and his parents. But, is it advisable to change the school to the child before a case of bullying?

Should we change the school child to a case of bullying?

Although there are detection and intervention protocols in bullying, the reality is that it is a very complicated issue. In many cases the episodes of harassment are labeled as "children's things", or situations that "have always existed in schools" or the victim is blamed "for not knowing how to defend himself".

Before changing the school to the child, we must take into account these tips:

- It should be the educational center where the one who takes certain measures to avoid cases of bullying, become a space in which violence outside of the center and the classrooms, which are not justified under any circumstances these situations, which will work with the bullies and their families and educate in respect for all, in the proper resolution of conflicts and zero violence.

- But in many cases, and in view of the impotence they suffer in these cases, the parents consider changing the school child, so that this situation is over and the child can start from scratch, but it is not always the best solution, and in fact, it should be the last option to be taken. The change of school debería should be the solution in very serious and specific cases and provided that the other measures are not effective, (or not taken). -

Change the school to the child and think that this will end everything, if no other measures are taken, they do not guarantee that the harassment will end. The child can feel that change as a punishment , think that the fault is his, that the problem is in him and also we risk transmitting the message that the problems are solved "fleeing from them". That is, we "blame" the victim, aggravating the problem.- When a child suffers school bullying, there are problems of self-esteem, self-confidence, relationship difficulties, etc ... that do not disappear with a change of school, they are there, like a backpack that the child carries on his back and conditions the adaptation to a new center. As much as we adults see it as a new opportunity to make friends and start from scratch,

the child is conditioned and afraid that it may happen again. Tips to help the child if he suffers bullying

In cases of bullying it is essential

to protect the victim and do a personal job with the child , (in addition to other measures) Teach him skills and give him personal and emotional tools to cope to these situations, and especially to its consequences, avoiding falling into the attribution of the cause of the harassment to the personal characteristics of the child, (it is immature, it does not defend itself, it is timid, etc ...).The problem with bullying is that when the parents or adults realize the situation, the child has been suffering for a long time. Children do not usually tell him immediately, out of fear, because they feel guilty, because they have learned that "things are like that" and can not change them. So in the event that we suspect that our child is being bullied

we must act and take a series of measures to prevent this from happening , such as informing the center, in writing, to record the fact, and demand that measures are taken (protocols against bullying, sanctions, etc.) en And in extreme cases where the problem persists and the center does not take effective measures, it may be necessary to stop taking the child to class, change school, and / or formally denounce the center.