Talk about adoption to children from 3 to 7 years of age

The dialogue between parents and children must be appropriate to the development, character, temperament and comprehension capacities of the child, whether adopted or not. When it comes to adoption, it is necessary to consider that adopted children experience the pain of separation from their biolog

The dialogue between parents and children must be appropriate to the development, character, temperament and comprehension capacities of the child, whether adopted or not. When it comes to adoption, it is necessary to consider that adopted children experience the pain of separation from their biological parents when they are born. All adopted children must adjust to the new reality, to new images, sounds, smells and new experiences.

From 3 years of age, when the child already has a certain power of understanding, parents have a perfect opportunity to start sharing the issue of adoption with the child in a calm and comfortable way, to build thus the foundations of future dialogues, of trust and truth. Follow some tips on how to talk about adoption with children, from 3 years of age.

Talk about adoption to children from 3 to 5 years

From 3 to 5 years, the child is preparing to face the world. Begins to develop the ability to explore, to initiate projects and question everything you see; These skills will help you start a light independence andseparation from your parents y, and prepare to leave the safe world of the house. The moment you look out at the outside world, you will begin to confront the fact of your own adoption. Because in the young child his thinking ability is so rudimentary, he generally has trouble understanding the implications of being adopted. Sotalking about the adoption of children of this age is important.Adopted children of six and seven years of age Between 6 and 7 years , the child can

differentiate between adoption and birth

as alternative ways of forming a family. In other words, he recognizes that although everyone enters the world in the same way, by birth, most members of families do so by being born within it. He also recognizes that being adopted means havingtwo types of parents : those who conceived me and those who welcomed and educated me. Children begin to wonder about their birth mother; Questions about their biological parents usually arrive a little later. If we do not have the answers to your questions, or if the story involves a complex or painful past, it is better to answer with a "maybe" or evasive, while reaffirming the value of the people involved and the difficulty of their situation before that your child is completely in the family.

Let the child think about the topic e, and even fantasize about their biological parents, invite your child to accept their role in the familyand develop a positive degree of self-esteem. Their curiosities may lead to fearsabout issues such as their biological parents appearing to claim it; That is why it is so important that you verify that he understands the process and the reason for its adoption. Silence and avoidance will possibly make the child think that there is something wrong in its origins and consequently, that there is something wrong with it.

The alternative is to tell the child the truth of what happened; This can be very hard for both the parents and the child, since deep down there is a hard truth to accept. But it is more harmful not to tell them, since the child perceives mystery, restlessness and silence about the subject of their biological parents and their origin. This distinction between birth and adoption is very important , it is the basis of a deeper meaning and understanding that will emerge later on. School-age children will increase their ability to solve problems. Increased logical thinking, increased sensitivity to others' point of view, and classroom experience contribute to this process. Adoptive child of school age The adoptive child of school age, for the first time

makes a spontaneous effort to seriously consider the circumstances surrounding his birth. No matter how much the adoptive parents try, it will be difficult to avoid that their children have feelings of loss and affliction for those that inevitably happen. However, they can be helped to overcome these difficult situations, validating your feelings.In those cases in which your child requires some information that is not in your power, offer help to find it. A young understanding that emerges from the family also complicates their feelings about being adopted. Young children, usually under 7, define family primarily in geographical terms: their family is made up of people who live at home. The biological connection is not seen as necessary to be a family member. This means that

young children easily accept

the affirmation of their adoptive parents who are part of the same family and will be so forever.