When the complexes in the children hide some form of bullying
Sometimes our children tell us that in school they get into them because they wear glasses, apparatus, they are tall, low or by any physical or personality trait, or They do not let them play this or that game because they do not know. These comments that adults often think of as "children's things"
Sometimes our children tell us that in school they get into them because they wear glasses, apparatus, they are tall, low or by any physical or personality trait, or They do not let them play this or that game because they do not know. These comments that adults often think of as "children's things" can give rise to complexities in our children, with the consequences this has on their self-esteem and personality. And that is, complexes in children can hide some form of bullying or bullying.
What is school bullying or bullying in childhood
School bullying are repeated behaviors of harassment, corneredness, mottos, insults, threats, coercion, ridicule, physical violence ... that occur within the school, (although obviously there may also be harassment outside the school).
What gives us the fundamental key to say if a child suffers bullying in school are three fundamental points, (diagnostic criteria most commonly accepted by researchers to elucidate if we have a case of bullying and school violence, collected in AVE, school bullying and violence assessment tool) Su - Its duration over time.
That is to say, it is not something sporadic that happens sometimes, but rather it is something repeated, recurrent and lasting in time. - Deterioration of the different areas of the child's life ((social, academic, family, emotional ...) Se - There are two or more behaviors of harassment and violence
at school (social exclusion, blockage, social manipulation, aggressions, intimidation, threats, harassment, insults ...)What to do if the complexes in the children hide a bullying situation
- It is important that the adults, avoid the typical response of "you do not pay attention to them, and they will stop mess with you "
, because although sometimes ignoring the one who bothers me is an attitude that works, it is not always like that, and also the boy or girl who lives that situation can understand that adults do not perceive that situation as a problem, and feels helpless. Hay - We must always pay attention to what the children tell us
in this regard, listen to them and provide them with the necessary tools to solve or deal with the problem, and although there will not always be a case of school harassment behind, if We could have put solution and means as soon as possible. -Do not downplay what happens to them, and try to give them tools and the help and support they need.
- Pay attention to any change in our son's behavior, (sleep, feeding, apathy ...) Ev - Avoid comments of the type, "do not get involved with that child", or "ignore him" "do not pay attention "" then look for other children to play ", which can make the child think that the problem or the fault is his.
Not all children can avoid being affected by these behaviors nor do they have the tools to remedy them. It is not the child who receives the insults that has to solve the problem, because the problem is not in it, (the environment, the role of adults, educational tools are key to prevent, solve, solve and intervene in cases of this type, whether harassment or not). Siempre - Whenever we consider that our son suffers because of those comments from the children, or we think that he may be suffering from bullying, we adults must act, acud well, going to the school to let them know what is happening (if they do not already know it) ), or going to the appropriate professionals to work and deal with the situation, (child psychologist) that can guide and guide us in these sensitive issues for which parents do not always have enough tools.