Unmotivated children

Motivation is the fuel that causes our mind to start and carry out some behaviors or others. We take action thanks to the fact that we feel a motivation that drives us to do so. If we did not have motivation, we would remain static and not interact with our environment. Thinking of children is synon

Thinking of children is synonymous with energy, vitality, curiosity, fun and play. If we observe apathy or demotivation in children, it means that something is not going well. What to do with unmotivated children?

Demotivated and apathetic children

Children, by natural instinct, are born motivated by learning, exploring and discovering the world around them. If a child has no motivation to explore and interact with their environment we must get down to work to find out what happens.

Many parents seek psychological help to curb the discouragement of their children. It is common to hear expressions such as: "I see him very unmotivated, how can I help him?", "He gives everything exactly the same", "he does not even care about receiving punishments, they do not work", "I have tried everything and he shows no interest in doing anything, "etc.

When parents observe that the child shows a lack of energy and interest, for all or the great majority of things in their daily life, they usually feel worried and overwhelmed by not knowing how to help the child to be motivated. And, often it is difficult for them to remain calm. What normally happens is that when the child is discouraged, parents are alarmed and use ineffective strategies to resolve this situation.

How to detect that a child is unmotivated?

- The unmotivated child has no interest in carrying out any activity of the proposed ones.

- He is not receptive to doing new things.

- No passion for any hobby or leisure activity.

- He is apathetic, with lack of energy.

- He seems to be a lazy or lazy child.

- He has no initiative to perform tasks on his own, he only carries out the tasks that are required of him.

- He seems not to enjoy what he does and continuously shows an attitude of reluctance.

- Do not feel illusion or show special attention to what happens in your environment.

- The effort or the desire to do things well done are conspicuous by their absence. Everything is done quickly as if he simply wanted to "get out of the way".

We should not worry. Demotivation in children is normal as long as it does not go on in time. Adults also have moments in our lives where we are not motivated by what we do or with the life we lead. It is impossible to always be 100% motivated by what one does.

Exactly the same thing happens to children. They may not be constantly satisfied with the activities they do or with the things that happen in their environment. However, if the child is unmotivated for a long time, with lack of energy and interest, it is advisable to ask for psychological help so that a professional psychologically values the child and discards the existence of other problems.

Unmotivated children, why are they demotivated? S - They feel that they are understood by the people around them.

- They do not receive the attention they need from their parents or attachment figures. - They do not find meaning in the things they do during the day.

- They do not do the things they want but those that their surroundings impose on them.

They do not know what their environment is waiting for them.

- The goals or objectives that the people around them fix are unrealistic or very difficult to reach and this generates frustration. - They do not feel that their effort is valued or reinforced.

- They have some other psychological problem that prevents them from being motivated (insecurity, low self-esteem, anxiety, stressful situation, depressive episode, etc.).

- They develop in an environment where there is a very poor stimulation or not adapted to their needs.

At home there is a high level of demand

, the rules are very rigid and the style of parenting is authoritarian. However, as parents it is advisable that we raise some questions such as: What could have happened so that my child is unmotivated and with a lack of interest? Is it possible that a bad moment is happening? Could it have affected something of what has happened lately? In your life, everything is fine?