The importance of putting limits on children

The absence of limits within the family can have disastrous consequences for the education of children. For that reason, the child psychologist María Luisa Ferrerós explains in Guiainfatil.com to the parents why it is good to say no. What the child likes most is having fun all day and, sometimes, th

The absence of limits within the family can have disastrous consequences for the education of children. For that reason, the child psychologist María Luisa Ferrerós explains in Guiainfatil.com to the parents why it is good to say no.

What the child likes most is having fun all day and, sometimes,they do not know that they must also fulfill their obligations, and that is where the work of the parents comes in.

How to say no to children

Parents have to learn to tolerate sometimes crying or have the child say he does not want to do something, but when things are good for him, parents should stand firm as that is very important for the education of the child. In this way, the child knows and realizes that parents are doing that for their own sake por, so they will never be traumatized. When parents forbid the child to go down to the park because he has to do homework, the child will be angry but deep down he knows and understands that it is for his own good.A clear example that children end up accepting and understanding the decisions of their parents is in the children's social relationships. If they do not let him, for example, go to the bowling alley, the boy when he talks to his friends will say that he does not mind not being able to go because he does not like it too much. This means that

children adopt the criterion of parents .Fear of parents to traumatize children

One of the main concerns of parents is not to be strict so as not to traumatize the child. And this is not the case, since

children are only traumatized when someone really harms them , whether physical or psychological. But when parents impose an educational punishment, limit their behavior or prohibit certain things for their own good, a child will never be traumatized.Finally, we must bear in mind that children do not want us to buy them and give them everything.

What children really want is that we are aware of them and that when there is one thing they should not do, that we do not let them do it. Because sometimes they do not have willpower and they get carried away by their friends for fear of facing them. It is evident that as parents it is hard for us to say no, but it is necessary and we have to realize that by giving them everything we do them no favor.