The role of grandparents with children before a divorce

Grandparents are a fundamental support when grandchildren arrive, especially in difficult times that families sometimes go through, for example separations or divorces . When a couple decides to end their relationship, grandparents can offer their grandchildren the emotional stability they need at t

Grandparents are a fundamental support when grandchildren arrive, especially in difficult times that families sometimes go through, for example separations or divorces.

When a couple decides to end their relationship, grandparents can offer their grandchildren the emotional stability they need at that moment. It is also common for a divorce to affect the grandparents themselves and their usual relationship with the rest of the family. For this reason, we offer some tips to deal with these situations as grandparents. Tips for grandparents during divorce The American Association of Retired Persons

(AARP) publishes some recommendations from Kathryn and Allan Zullo, authors of The Nanas and the Popes, A Boomers' Guide to Grandparenting:

-Concentrate attention and Support in the grandchildren, not in the parents, are the ones that most understanding and help need. L -The grandparents must make the grandchildren understand that they are not responsible for the break, if the little ones think so. They should explain to them that it is a problem of adults.

-Confidence and communication with grandchildren should be maintained, encourage them to express their feelings and to keep in touch with them regularly, so that the children know they can count on them. Es -It is essential that grandparents stay impartial, that they do not show negative opinions to children about one of their parents. Grandparents' problems due to divorces Parental separation can also affect the relationship of grandparents with grandchildren, for example when

being able to visit them . In general, grandparents can organize their own visitation regime.A special case noted on the AARP website is the figure of the

grandmother

. It occurs either because the child marries someone who already has children or because the grandfather himself establishes a relationship with a person who has grandchildren. This situation can be a challenge that must be addressed with confidence and security, always weighing the good of the little ones.