When grandparents meddle too much

Grandparents are there to spoil grandchildren! We often hear this expression in our day to day life. Fortunately, many young people can turn to their parents to take care of their grandchildren while they work or face other obligations. In recent years, mainly due to the economic crisis and the lack

Grandparents are there to spoil grandchildren! We often hear this expression in our day to day life. Fortunately, many young people can turn to their parents to take care of their grandchildren while they work or face other obligations.

In recent years, mainly due to the economic crisis and the lack of family reconciliation, the number of grandparents who take care of their grandchildren during the day has increased. Having help from our parents to take on the difficult job of caring for their children is a great relief and a lot of peace. And who better to take care of our children than our parents? But what happens when the grandparents meddle too much?

Grandparents who meddle in the education of grandchildren

The role that grandparents play has a positive effect on the child's development, they are a source of love and affection. But what happens if the grandparents do not assume the same educational style as the parents of the child?

A priori, that the grandparents assume the care of their grandchildren, while their children perform other tasks, it may seem an idyllic situation and in many occasions it is, but in many others, it becomes a situation that generates a myriad of conflicts between parents and children due mainly to the lack of discipline that is breathed in the homes of grandparents. They have a lot of time to devote all the necessary attention to their grandchildren, they have a life without excessive responsibilities to assume on a day-to-day basis and they have the peace of mind that the parents of the child are taking responsibility for educating and raising the grandchild. So they

allow themselves to enjoy their grandchildren by indulging any whim , being more flexible in terms of the rules and obligations to follow and trying to satisfy all their wishes.However, if parents and grandparents do not follow the same educational style, based on consistency and consistency between the two, the main harmed will be the child.

Grandparents tend to be much more permissive than parents tienden and tend to justify this permissiveness under the argument that parents are already educating! Both parents and grandparents are fundamental in raising the child, both have many things to contribute. If we want children to be happy we must offer them in equal proportion love and discipline. Today we know that children who are raised on permissiveness

are not happier, without clear limits or well-defined norms, but quite the contrary. Children to develop healthily need to receive a lot of affection and be educated with discipline. What to do if grandparents meddle too muchSo, what can we do to make grandparents not so permissive with grandchildren?

The best weapon is dialogue. It is necessary that parents and grandparents communicate frequently to talk about the child. Parents should tell their grandparents that if the child receives contradictory messages they will not know what to expect, se they will feel insecure, bewildered and perhaps anxious.

If your parents are taking care, for many hours a day, of the care of your children, we recommend that you make use of the dialogue to explain what your goals are, what rules and limits are important for you that the child assumes and offer arguments that explain why.

Grandparents would never do anything that could harm the child. If they act with excessive permissiveness it is because they do not know that said educational style does not benefit the child. So if they are informed andwe previously negotiated with them the common objectives to follow respecto, regarding the upbringing of the child, everything will flow without any problem.It is advisable in turn to listen to the grandparents' point of view and incorporate many of their recommendations among the objectives.