Signs that indicate that the child feels misunderstood

Many times we see that when children have tantrums, adults use phrases such as: "this child is consented to everything", how this child has become capricious !", etc. When children go through this stage, parents use this type of expression alleging that children are incorrigible and leaving them as

But, really in all cases Is the child a capricious and a spoiled? The child may behave in this way because he feels misunderstood or frustrated and the problem is that we adults do not stop to see what the root of the problem is and what the needs of the children are. There are signs that indicate that the child feels misunderstood.

Signs of the misunderstood child: the stage of tantrums

Children go through times when they have tantrums very easily. It is around 2 years when they experience a crisis for the search of self-affirmation; period in which the child stops being a baby and begins to become a child. It is a time of transition in which there must be understanding and understanding on the part of parents.This stage begins when the child begins to use the NO continuously, endowing it with meaning and awareness. He does this because of a need to reaffirm himself, that is, to make adults see that he is already capable of making decisions.

Decision making is often misinterpreted and the child is thought to be capricious, but what is really done is not giving the child the opportunity to express himself and show his feelings.

The child will feel misunderstood and frustrated before this and will use the tantrums as a means of expression. Signs of the misunderstood child: when adolescence arrives

In adolescence the child undergoes important changes both physically and emotionally. Therefore, we are facing another stage of transition in which the goal of the child is to reach maturity. It is a time when the child seeks independence in all aspects, both socially and emotionally. A stage in which the adolescent may feel misunderstood. Adolescence can be divided into two stages:

- Puberty

, which goes from age 12 to age 15. In this sub-stage the child goes through a psychological crisis due to a lack of interest and difficulty to be able to concentrate (something that is not taken into account when it comes to academic requirements). This is accompanied by uncertainties, feelings of discouragement and even a decrease in intellectual capacity.- The second adolescence

, from 15 to 18 years old. They develop their interests and care about the status they occupy within society because it is a period in which the child makes a transition from the family nucleus to society.It is important that adults know the needs and concerns that children have in order to understand them and give them the help they need.

What to do if the child shows symptoms of feeling misunderstood

As we have seen most of the times that they behave badly they are not due to the whims of the children or because they want to bother us. If you listen to them and take into account the needs they need at each stage they go through, we can help them by understanding and supporting them instead of causing them frustration and a feeling of incomprehension.

Using empathy when talking with children is very important. Being able to put yourself in their place is essential for the child to see that adults understand how they feel. The use of empathy means listening to them and keeping in mind that the problems that children have are of the same importance as those of adults and that therefore deserve all the attention and consideration.