There is no father who does not despair constantly listening to the screams of his children. They are really exhausting and subject us to an extra stress that tends to make the little patience we have after a long day disappear. It also seems that no matter how much we say it, they do not understand
There is no father who does not despair constantly listening to the screams of his children. They are really exhausting and subject us to an extra stress that tends to make the little patience we have after a long day disappear.
It also seems that no matter how much we say it, they do not understand it, and it is inevitable that we often end up shouting to ask for a bit of silence, which is totally absurd.
Methods for children to learn to speak softly
We must bear in mind that children shout because they hear us shouting at us, even if it is not in the same situations. In some countries, such as the Netherlands or Germany, the tone of voice is very low and children are barely heard when they play or talk; so we'll have to assume that this is part of the problem.
But this problem is exacerbated when the child perceives that raising the tone of voice provokes in his parents a quick and effective response. It is a way of drawing our attention, and if we, whether to get angry or not, respond to that stimulus we are reinforcing this action.
Children have plenty of energy and have constant feelings of euphoria, so it is normal to have screams for any reason: joy, games, anger, emotion or asking for something.
What can we do so that they do not scream?Here are some techniques to teach children to talk quietly. The trick is to be persistent and not despair in the attempt, you will see how they end up learning it.
1- Talk to you shortly. You have to try to have a low tone of voice constantly since setting an example is the best way to learn. When they are the ones who shout, the trick is to talk to them more quietly than usual so that he has to lower his voice to be able to listen to what you say and calm down.
2- Ignore him when he shouts. Although it seems a bit absurd is a trick that works very well. Tell him that as he screams so much you can not understand him, until he speaks softly and slowly you can not pay attention to him, and take him out in the subsequent times, you'll see how the next time he will lower the tone so that you pay attention to him.
3- Practice speaking in a low voice. Although it may seem simple to us, the fact is that children have a hard time speaking softly. Every night before going to bed, practice speaking softly like a game, the one who raises his voice loses his turn.
4- If you have several children and all of them shout to explain something to you, we only pay attention to the one who does not shout al or to the one who is silent, and we always explain why we serve him first. 5- Practice relaxation techniques
. This is good for both children and parents, when things are hot. Standing in the middle of the discussion and doing a few breaths until we are all calm makes it possible for us to deal with the problems from another point of view.