When a child feels different

That a child feels different in itself is not a problem, or should not be, because each and every one of us is different from the rest. The problem comes when feeling different affects your self-esteem, your mood or your relationships with other children. A child may feel different for many reasons

That a child feels different in itself is not a problem, or should not be, because each and every one of us is different from the rest. The problem comes when feeling different affects your self-esteem, your mood or your relationships with other children.

A child may feel different for many reasons ... for being taller, shorter, for not having the same interests as most children, for having learning difficulties, for their origin or for any other reason. We tell you what happens when a child feels different and how to help him / her.

Children who feel different

Young children build their self-concept and self-esteem little by little. At the beginning, children construct that image of themselves based almost exclusively on the appreciation and affection of their parents, but as the influence group expands, around 6-7 years, the assessment made by others begin to gain relevance.

The child who feels different, usually suffers some kind of exclusion in the peer group, (Pepito does not play football because he is very clumsy, or so-and-so does not play with us in the playground because he is very bossy, or Pepito can not come because it is a pegón ...) and it is this exclusion that makes them think and feel that they are worse, and that is when their self-esteem and the concept of themselves can be damaged.

The role of parents in these situations is very important. It is essential to create a climate of trust with the child that allows the child to express their feelings, thoughts and emotions. But it does not always happen that our children tell us how they feel and what happens to them outside the home, so we must be attentive to the signs that can make us think that something is not right . Sleep problems, withdrawal, mood swings, not wanting to do the activities they normally do, difficulties in school, can give us the clue about something that is not going well in our son.What to do if the child feels different

What can parents do in these cases: Escuchar - Listen to our child.

Everything he tells us is important to him, so we must listen to him and not underestimate what he says. Phrases of the type, "You do not pay attention to them, or that's nonsense" does not help them. When they tell us something, the children expect us to help them solve the problem. You have to listen to them and understand their feelings.

- Help you value yourself, que and see that your qualities are just as valuable as those of other children. - Support and value him, trust him and listen to him.

- Teach children how to solve problems in a positive way sin, without resorting to anger or fights.

- Try toparticipate in activities where you feel good

, comfortable and have pleasant personal experiences. Expand your circle of friends. Es - It is also important to observe how our child behaves ya, since sometimes feeling different and not very accepted can make him behave (normal on the other hand when he feels rejected), which accentuates that rejection even more. Show more withdrawn than normal and isolate, hit colleagues, sneak around, become a "clown" for others to accept ... are behaviors that can take place and further complicate the situation. So parents should help them and give them examples of how to act at all times and make them see that this path is not the best.We must bear in mind that conflicts and problems with other children are normal and necessary in the development of children, they have to

learn to love and value themselves and understand that they will not always like everyone in the same way that they do not they like the whole world But we must pay special attention to those situations that we can consider more serious, to avoid an emotional problem in the child, and when necessary or so we consider it, go to a professional who guides us orient and advise on the best way to act in each case.