What anger teaches children

What the head is cut off! Do you remember the Queen of Hearts from Alice in Wonderland? That lady that every time someone did or said something that she did not like she shouted that of cutting her head! She was an angry woman, who could explode like a bomb at any moment. It was the king, tiny and s

She was an angry woman, who could explode like a bomb at any moment. It was the king, tiny and serene, who sought a less violent alternative every time his queen lost her nerve, or at least tried. The lady was angry with the world and everyone who lived in it. Why? What is the point of anger? Do children learn something from it?

What to explain to children of anger

The Queen of Alice in Wonderland represents runaway anger, frustration at failure, fear of change, fear of losing control, fear of losing your power ... In short, fear. Because anger is nothing but fear when you go out to look for a fight.

But none of this is explained in the movie. The information is there. Children see it and absorb it, even if they do not understand it. But the fundamental step is missing: to transform it into learning.

1. That you explain to them la that anger without control leads to: violence, accusation, denial, guilt, instability ... And none of this makes you happy. Que 2. That you teach them that if you are able to find the source of that anger: frustration, envy, failure, disagreement, fear, you will be able to understand it and begin to undo the knot of feelings.3. That you explain to them

that we are all afraid

. And sometimes our fears and frustrations turn into anger. That's why the Queen of Hearts is the perfect opportunity to address this issue with your children. 4. That you explain to them why that lady reacts that she is so angry with everyone. Que 5. Explain that the only way to handle anger is to recognize it, accept itand learn to manage it

What children learn from anger Anger makes you feel anger, anger, resentment, anger, irritability. It is the feeling that is born when you feel frustrated by an unfair or adverse situation. Anger will invite your child to action. Your muscles will tense, your blood pressure will increase, your body will secrete adrenaline ...

The function of anger is to develop a defense against an attack

. It appears quickly and powerfully. It does not let you reflect, it is intense and unpleasant. That is why it is difficult to control in a natural way, that is why you have to learn to do it. Emotions are wonderful. They drive you. They guide you. They accompany you. But it is essential to learn to handle them with balance so that they do not dominate your life turning it into a roller coaster.