When children feel jealous towards their mother or father
Children's reactions always surprise. One of the most curious we can contemplate is the jealousy of children towards one of their parents . When the parents embrace or kiss each other, there are some children who get angry expressing it with screams and crying to prevent this show of affection betwe
Children's reactions always surprise. One of the most curious we can contemplate is the jealousy of children towards one of their parents. When the parents embrace or kiss each other, there are some children who get angry expressing it with screams and crying to prevent this show of affection between the parents.
Children and, above all, children who do not have siblings, naturally and inevitably feel a crush on one of their parents when they are young. This type of jealousy that children feel towards their father or mother makes them suffer, but at the same time it helps them grow and mature.
Children who are jealous towards their mother or father
When children, if they are boys, want their mother for themselves and do not want to share it with their father; and the girls love their father for themselves and the mother is the one that hinders. We are talking about the concept that Freud called: Oedipus Complex.
This complex appears between three and seven years. It is a normal stage in development where the little ones are attracted to one of their parents and begin to experience an unconscious rejection of the other. Over time this trend disappears. What to do if the child feels jealous towards the father or the motherIf the child shows
jealousy of one of his parents
he has the right to do so and be able to express it. He wants one of the parents for him and feels jealous of the other and with this attitude he wants to control and control the couple. This anger should be respected but it should not be allowed to interfere in the couple's relationship. The child must take his place in the family and for this the parents should not change their behavior towards him or towards the couple. The child must gradually become aware that the parents are a couple and that he can not decide on their relationship. When children are in this situation, parents can help with various attitudes: Los - Parents must consider that this stage the child is going through
is normal and temporary within their development.
- Do not enter your game
. The child will be confused and parents have to help him. - No teasing.
For children, it can be a very serious subject, even if adults find it "fun".- The parents must understand and accept the feelings of the child.
Thus, when the child gets angry with his parents, they have to respect him but without paying much attention. That is to say, to listen to him but without giving him explanations. - Do not stop showing affection in the couple in front of the child.
Thanks to this, the child is helped to overcome the stage of jealousy in a healthy manner. - In addition to having a moment of intimacy with the couple they have to be respected.
