We talk about children with verbal incontinence when the child does not stop talking, without control, interrupts the conversations of others, gets into conversations of adults ... Normally when children learn to talk and discover the world of language, they do not stop ... they talk at all hours, t
We talk about children with verbal incontinence when the child does not stop talking, without control, interrupts the conversations of others, gets into conversations of adults ...
Normally when children learn to talk and discover the world of language, they do not stop ... they talk at all hours, they ask, they talk alone or with their dolls, you are driving and you listen to them in the back seat talking without stopping even though they do not have an audience ... and this, although tired, is at some point normal and well, they have just discovered that new skill. It is important at this time, to teach children the rules of interpersonal communication, (turns of words, proper tone of voice, how to address people ...) What causes verbal incontinence in some children
But when children not only they talk without stopping, but they do not listen to the other person, they interrupt, they talk at the same time as the other person, they even disrespect, this behavior can cause problems in the family as well as in social relationships or in the classroom, so so much has to be attended to and analyzed to be able to put a solution.
The first thing we have to establish are the causes of this "uncontrolled speech". Possible causes:
It is convenient to consider the possible existence of some type of emotional distress or external stressor that provokes anxiety and manifests it with nervous verbiage. Children who continually ask about everything that happens around them, may have a certain degree of insecurity or anxiety, and asking about everything is a way to control the environment and therefore be calmer. - Behavioral.
When the children talk too much, they interrupt the conversations of the parents or the adults ... We are here with children who are too self-centered and who want to be the center of attention of parents and adults and talk and talk without stopping for us to listen to them. - Of neurological / biological origin.
We speak in this case of impulsive children, ADHD ... In this case, uncontrolled speech is a consequence of the child's lack of self-control, and the same affects his speech as other areas of his life. In this case, this uncontrolled speech is a consequence of the difficulties they have in controlling and inhibiting behavior, organizing thought and discourse. - Children with high abilities:
profuse verbal fluency can cause difficulty to suppress the desire to speak and develop listening habits. How to act in front of children with verbal incontinence
Since this verbal incontinence usually causes social problems in children, (we scold parents, teachers reprimand them, even friends complain that they "talk too much") it is convenient to act in this sense and reeducate behavior and teach communication patterns in children.
We must always take into account the age of the children, their personal characteristics, development to be able to establish the causes of this verbal "incontinence" and be able to rectify it adequately. In general, some guidelines to control this behavior in children:
- Teach and practice active listening.
- Think before you speak, structure the speech.
- Learn to
respect the turns of words. We can use color codes to set the speaking times at home or in class. - If it is for attention calls, (the child wants to be the center) we must establish at home some very clear patterns of behavior, ignore the child when he gets into other people's conversations, establish
consequences for unwanted behavior and prize for The desired. -
Be patient , do not scold or get angry if the problem comes from a difficulty to control impulses, high capacity or because they are at that age when they talk nonstop.