How the child influences having been a pampered and spoiled baby

As parents, we all want the best for our little ones, who do not suffer and who lack nothing. In this give them everything we think they need, and try to avoid the unpleasant, we often fall over spoiling. Mimes are not harmful, in fact they are necessary and good, but when we spoil excessively, we s

Mimes are not harmful, in fact they are necessary and good, but when we spoil excessively, we spoil, which in the long run (and not so long) can have negative consequences for the child, (and for the parents). How can it affect the child?

Babies who are too spoiled can be tyrannical children

A spoiled child, usually hyper-involved, is ultimately a tyrant child, dependent, insecure, not self-sufficient, with low tolerance for frustration and may have difficulties in relating to their peers. It will not only affect your child's life, but it can also condition your adult life.

We must make clear what we mean when we speak of a spoiled child. We not only spoil children when we give them everything they ask for and at the moment they ask for it (toys, food, clothes ...). When we try to avoid all kinds of suffering, when we protect them excessively, when we take care of their things, (school backpack, agendas, homework, housework ...), we are spoiling our children.

We must be very clear that the "no" helps children grow. What makes a child suffer is not that we say no, but that we give them everything they want. Curious, is not it? If I always give him everything he asks of me and let him do what he wants, how will he face when the world denies him something now or in the future? He will not do it, and that's when he really will have a hard time.

How the child influences the excess of mimes from an early age

Therefore we can say that the excess of mimes negatively influences children and causes:

- They are children with low tolerance to frustration, and find it difficult to manage their emotions.

- Be less autonomous and more dependent.

- Claim to be the center of attention.

- They have more tantrums and get more angry. They are more tyrants.

- They have more difficulties managing and resolving conflicts.

- It is harder for them to put themselves in the place of others. - Before mistakes or failures tend to blame others.

- They may develop low self-esteem.

What to do to prevent our son from being spoiled and spoiled

All this influences the development of the child, and the adult that will be tomorrow. As parents, some guidelines to keep in mind are:

Saying "no" is good , "no" helps children grow.- Know how to manage tantrums.

Give responsibilities to children desde, from making a backpack, to setting the table and making them responsible for their tasks. -Not doing things to the children

, what they can do, it is good that they do it, that gives them autonomy, and if they are autonomous they are safe and happier. Parents accompany and teach, but we do not do it all. - Do not hyperprotect. We can not prevent children from falling, so it is best to teach them to get up.

-Correct from affection

, with positive language, but correct inappropriate behaviors and behaviors. It is ultimately about helping them and teaching them to be autonomous people, and to know how to face the world around them so they can be happy today and tomorrow. And this is not always an easy task, so in the face of any difficulty, the best thing is to advise and go to the experts.