How to foster the bond between sisters
Several recent studies show that the only children differ positively in two points with respect to those who have siblings: the first is that they have a higher achievement motivation; and the second, a higher self-esteem. However, most single children complain that their personal problems are due t
Several recent studies show that the only children differ positively in two points with respect to those who have siblings: the first is that they have a higher achievement motivation; and the second, a higher self-esteem. However, most single children complain that their personal problems are due to not having siblings.
The relationship between sisters is one of the closest bonds that our daughters will have throughout their lives and this will influence their personality. The sisters treat each other as equals, learn to share, respect and live together. It is normal that during certain stages of growth they experience jealousy and are even rivals, but they are usually passing moments that will change throughout their growth.
How to encourage a good relationship between sisters
It has been shown that in certain families, sisters play a more important role than their own parents, either because of their absence or because, on many occasions, parents only speak with your children when they see a major problem or need to be honest with them. The sisters assume at that time the person closest to whom to ask, which can help resolve daily conflicts because their parents "are not available" to deal with affective issues.
Therefore, it is important to create a good bond between the sisters y, and in that, the parents have a lot to contribute. Much of the relationship you hold in the future will depend on our dealings with them now.1
-Avoid comparing. You can assess the attitudes of each one but never compare. 2- Create collaboration between them
. We must flee from rivalry and look for common goals; that they feel like a team facing the problems that arise.3- Dedicate the same time to each one and separately.
You do not have to attend to one more than the other because you need it more, or because it is smaller, but each one within your plot must be attended to your own needs. 4- It propitiates your privacy.
Their own space and their dialogue is essential to foster complicity without having an adult behind them. Sometimes they should solve their problems on their own. 5- Respect the attention shifts of each one.
It is normal that when one requires attention, the other becomes jealous and tries to steal that attention; do not leave him. Each one must wait their turn and respect the spaces of the other. The same goes for the turns in the conversation, they must learn to listen to each other and respect their opinion. 6- Never put them against.
Do not make the other sister responsible for the problems, encourage common joy, share the other problems and experiences of her sister. The sisters will be the greatest support they can have throughout their lives.
