Children who want to always get away with it

Children often want to get away with it and try to impose their criteria and desires on top of others. Perhaps, on more than one occasion, you have asked yourself: Why does my son want to get away with it? The answer is simple, and why not? Children despite their young age are very capable emotionally, sometimes even more than adults. They perfectly capture the emotions of the people around them. Therefore, when they perceive that the limits are diffuse or that there is a minimum possibility to get away with it, they try to achieve it.

When your child always wants to get away with it

Many times, when a child tries to get away with it, the adult qualifies him as a stubborn child, stubborn, impertinent, capricious, defiant and even as a small tyrant.

But is it bad for a child to try to get away with it? DO NOT! It is absolutely normal, they simply try to achieve their goals, which usually do not match the goals their parents have. However,

a child who strives to defend their rights and achieve their goals is a child who enjoys adequate psychological strength. However, children obviously do not have the same worldview that adults have. Therefore, it is necessary that the adults who surround them explain to them that there are objectives that can not be carried out because it would not be beneficial for them. Adults are responsible for putting limits on children and they are trying to get away with it.

What strategies do children use most often to get away with it?

- Emotional blackmail.

- Tantrums.

- Disobedience.

- Lies.

To combat this type of behavior it is advisable to use what is known in psychology as positive reinforcement. It is a very simple technique. It simply consists of

reinforcing the child positively each time he performs the appropriate behavior . Science has shown that if we want a behavior to repeat itself we must reinforce it. How? Very easy! Paying attention to the child, congratulating or praising him. The idea is to replace the punishment or reprimand, as a result of their inappropriate behavior, by reinforcing the appropriate behaviors that the child performs.That is, instead of punishing the child when he uses unsuitable strategies to get away with it, it is more advisable

not to pay attention to this type of behavior and on the contrary, to reinforce those behaviors that we consider appropriate, such as, for example, complying with norms that are imposed at home. As a conclusion, we consider it necessary to emphasize that if our child tries to get away with it, we should not worry because it is normal within their development processes.

However, if this behavior is repeated very frequently, it is recommended that

analyze what we do as parents every time the child shows inappropriate behavior to achieve their goals. Do we always yield to your wishes? Does the child finally get away with his? Should we change the way we act with him?