Five sentences that no mother should forget

Being a parent is not easy and everyone is finding their resources throughout the parenting exercise. Today I decided to share 5 of the learnings that were super useful and I hope they are for you too. I'd love to know which ones are yours. 5 basic ideas that every mother needs to know 1. Your mothe

Being a parent is not easy and everyone is finding their resources throughout the parenting exercise. Today I decided to share 5 of the learnings that were super useful and I hope they are for you too. I'd love to know which ones are yours.

5 basic ideas that every mother needs to know

1. Your mother-in-law is sometimes right: Many mothers find it hard to accept advice, especially when they come from the mother-in-law. But being emotionally involved with our children prevents us from sometimes seeing certain things with objectivity. When it comes to well-meaning people, even give them the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes they can make you see that your child needs to be seen by a professional, who needs limits in front of certain behaviors, that requires containment in front of a lived situation. Your instinct is worth it, but an external look sometimes also contributes.

2. Not everything depends on you:studies that talk about the importance of the first years of life for the development of people appeared everywhere in recent years. The need to receive love to enhance self-esteem and emotional control are key. But not everything depends on you. Pediatrician Carlos González comments: "The development of people depends on the genetic factors and the thousands of interactions they have throughout their lives: grandparents, friends, neighbors, teachers, uncles."

It is key to know, to make sure that we must do our best, but that ultimately we do not have absolute control over the development of our children. Remembering it relieves pressure and removes the famous guilt, so present in our days. En 3. In a moment you will miss what you hated to do before:

the boys grow, faster than we would like. Sometimes getting lice or repeating a story for the umpteenth time may seem like torture, but when you want to realize it, the stage of doing it will be over. The change of diapers, to prepare bottles, to help with homework, to prepare costumes for the end of the year party. Do not wait to have longing. Connect with the present, with what you are living today. And make it yours despite the fatigue, the bad mood, stress of work, bad weather. Everything happens. Catch it in your soul before it happens. 4. One thing is what happens and another is the record of what happens.

How does my child feel that I do not want it if I tell him a thousand times? How is he jealous of his brother if he paid much more attention to him? How does he say that he does not play with friends at school if his teacher tells me he sees him surrounded by children? Reality does not exist. What exists are different points of view. Perceptions that are interconnected with our emotions. And those of the boys are as valid as those of the adults. If your child is expressing dismay at a situation, feels little valued, little understood, upset, angry, do not think it can not be. Try to have empathy, understand where your feelings may come from and change the way you acted with him on that subject. We can not expect things to change if we keep doing the same as always. 5. Choose which battles you will fight:

perfect children do not exist. Those who behave well, eat well, sleep well, lend their toys and help their brothers, more than children, they are probably extraterrestrials. But if we try to correct everything, and all at the same time, parenting is probably more like a war than a period of growth and shared learning. You can not be on two fronts at the same time. If you are selective with food, you did not learn to control potty training, do not adapt to kindergarten, etc. I put on a scale what is most relevant to family dynamics and generates tactics and strategies to try to change only one of the habits. With time and patience others will be corrected, but all at the same time it will be exhausting for you and frustrating for your son.