How to talk about suicide to children

There are difficult issues to face and explain to our children. Subjects as painful as death, whether due to illness, accident or suicide. And for fear of not knowing how to explain them or the children's reaction to such a sad, painful and tragic event, we tend to mistakenly think that it is better to keep them away. Así And so we try to protect them, also wrongly, by silencing the event or telling them pious lies. However,

it is better to give a sincere explanation about what happened and avoid silencing , denying, lying or hiding reality since in the end these strategies can end up breaking the bonds of trust that children place in us, their reference adults.Guidelines on why and how to talk about suicide to children

- It is important that we talk about suicide even if this is not something that has happened in our immediate environment.

- Despite the difficulty involved in talking and explaining the subject of death in general and suicide in particular, it is important that they are treated openly as a family, always from the tranquility, respect and of course, from pain.

- Death is part of life and children need to be able to understand it.

Avoid talking about it only postpones what one day inevitably face. We know that it is not easy, much less if death has been by suicide, a subject still surrounded by silence and shame. However, and despite the difficulty that adults themselves have in being able to understand suicide, it must be approached openly and shared with children. - Talking about suicide, demystifying some of its topics, can be a

protection factor reducing the risk to be carried out . Hab - Talking about suicide helps to understand what it is and why a person feels so sad and dejected that he decides not to continue suffering by ending his existence.- Children are able to understand everything if we adapt our language to their level of age and maturity.

- If the suicide has occurred in a close family environment the child must have the peace of mind that none of his behaviors caused the death of his loved one.

Sharing the pain of loss helps to express their feelings

, of pain, anger, impotence, anger, ... allowing us to elaborate a healthy grieving process. - Explain, always depending on the age, that certain mental illnesses cause a deep discomfort and desire to stop suffering. Actually people who commit suicide do not want to die, they just want to end the suffering they feel.- That is why it is so important that we learn to talk with the people closest to us, to seek help, to share our pain and suffering. Talking about feelings is the first step to encourage living. When fears are shared with another, it is easier to resolve them