A study has revealed that the practice of separating twins into different classes in the first years of school is counterproductive, especially for the youngest ones. Many of these children suffer traumatic consequences as a cause of separation, first from their parents and after their siblings who
A study has revealed that the practice of separating twins into different classes in the first years of school is counterproductive, especially for the youngest ones. Many of these children suffer traumatic consequences as a cause of separation, first from their parents and after their siblings who have been intimately linked throughout their lives. InGuíainfantil.com
we tell you the arguments for and against this practice that is deeply rooted in almost all developed countries. What can happen when separating twin brothers at school? Some of these symptoms are usually attributed to the beginning of school, such as: the regression in learning such as toilet training, withdrawal, separation anxiety, and even poor academic results; however, if this is your case, you must ask yourself if it can not be caused by the separation of the children.
This same study recommends, do not implement this rule without studying each case. It can not always be traumatic for children, even sometimes it can be recommended when the relationship between siblings is too absorbing for just one child or bad, with excessive fights or jealousy, but this should be the exception and not the norm.
Arguments in favor of separating twins at school
- Improves the individuality of children
- They will expand their group of friends.- They will not depend so much on each other releasing at least dependent load.
- Facilitates interaction with the rest of the students.
- They learn to be independent and not a group.
Arguments against separating twins in the school
- Individuality is encouraged from home treating them as independent brothers
. There is no point in having them separated if later at home or on the part of friends they are treated as a group. In addition, this individuality is innate in each one of them, whatever father of twins or twins can clearly see the marked difference between them in the likes, friendships, and ways of acting. On the contrary, with separation, it has not been proven that this improves.
-Normally the twins do not usually share friends
, since their personalities are often disparate, so being together in the same class is not usually an impediment to meet new friends, you can also be in separate classes and join them friends during breaks. - In the case of very dependent twins,the separation will cause more dependency than ever on the brother
, in addition to anxiety, loneliness and isolation. - In the case of helping the interaction with other children, this can be done by putting different siblings into work groups within the same class.-
Independence should not be imposed on the force
, since this will cause a blockage, but it will be acquired little by little when the child feels safe, however the separation often produces the opposite, insecurity and withdrawal. Crea - Creates in children stress by separation, with retraining of learninglike peeing back in bed, fear of separation, tantrums, crying ...
- Can increase the difficulty in learning caused by insecurity. Especial - It is especially recommended not to separate them between 3 to 6 years, a time when it can be very traumatic, but this is not an indication that it can not be done later when the children are more independent.