When the child does not like to kiss or hug

Does not your child want to hug or kiss other people? Do not give too much importance to this issue. There are many parents who worry too much when they see that their son systematically rejects the kisses and hugs of other people. The child may refuse to give kisses or hugs for various reasons. It

Does not your child want to hug or kiss other people? Do not give too much importance to this issue. There are many parents who worry too much when they see that their son systematically rejects the kisses and hugs of other people.

The child may refuse to give kisses or hugs for various reasons. It may be a shy child who feels embarrassed and uncomfortable interacting with other people, you may also not like to have physical contact with physical persons that are not your trust, and another possibility is that you perceive that manifesting this behavior of rejection bothers their parents and use such behavior to capture the attention of their parents.

What to do if the child is not very affectionate

On occasion, parents also feel embarrassed when their child refuses to kiss or hug others in their immediate surroundings and consider that they must force the child to kiss and hugs. But, this is not the best way to act when the child refuses to kiss or hug!

Children are independent people and as parents we must help them to be free and to act according to their motivations, desires, needs, tastes, etc. Children are small but they have no less right to decide what they want or do not want to do.We must respect their criteria, their way of expressing themselves, their way of relating to the environment, and ultimately understand that they are not our property but, on the contrary, from the moment they are born they are free people.

Many times we want to impose our criteria and that the child does what we think is best for fear that people around us think that we have not educated our son properly or simply because we feel embarrassed and embarrassed when the child refuses to act in the way that we would like.

Let's do a little reflection, how would it make you feel if they forced you to kiss or hug someone without your wanting to? Surely it would be uncomfortable for you and you would feel that you are not respecting your decisions, right? Because the same thing happens to the children!

Normally, when the child perceives that his parents do not give much importance to this matter and feels that both he and his decisions are respected, he will begin to relax and those behaviors of refusal to be kissed or embraced will disappear. Little by little, our son will be learning, observing the adults around him, social norms and will adapt to them without any problem.

When the child refuses hugs and kisses

Next, we share with you some recommendations that will help you adequately address the rejection behavior that your child manifests when people around you demand kisses or hugs:

- Do not be alarmed If your child refuses to kiss or hug someone else. It is best to act normally and not insist on it.

- Kissing or hugging should not be an obligation! Do not force children to give kisses or hugs to other people if they do not want to. Children have to feel free to kiss who they want and when they want.

- We must respect children and their decisions. Your body is yours, we must respect that they choose who they want to have physical contact with and who they do not.

- We must not convince the child to end up kissing or hugging someone against their will because we can favor in this way that they are more vulnerable to abuse by another person because they are not used to saying NO to physical contact who do not want it to take place. It is very good that children set their own limits. No - Do not punish him for it, do not manipulate him if he refuses to kiss or hug. It is common to hear in adults phrases like "if you do not give me a kiss I'm going to be very sad", "if you do not give me a kiss it's because you do not love me", "I'm going to cry if you do not kiss me", "Give your grandmother a kiss or she will be very angry with you", etc.