How to channel anger in children

Each child experiences emotions differently, although anger is usually one of the most difficult emotions to control , especially after 2 or 3 years. However, this period can be extended until adolescence if you do not teach them to manage their anger properly. Anger is not an emotion neither positi

Each child experiences emotions differently, although anger is usually one of the most difficult emotions to control, especially after 2 or 3 years. However, this period can be extended until adolescence if you do not teach them to manage their anger properly.

Anger is not an emotion neither positive nor negative, it has the function of defending ourselves against any injustice. The problem is not the anger itself but the consequences that can not be managed properly. Therefore, it is important that from the beginning, take into account the advice that we propose below.

Teach children to manage their anger

- Be the model: It is logical that sometimes, you have a bad day and do not have so much patience but if you want him to channel anger properly, you have to start with you . It is also important to keep calm because emotions get infected and if you see yourself upset, surely your child's anger will increase in duration and intensity.

- Recognize and express emotions: In most cases, until we give a name to what happens to us, it is difficult for us to channel it. If your child is small, it is best that you identify the emotion and ask what is happening to give him the opportunity to tell you. At other times, the degree of anger is such that it will not help us. If you do not like being overwhelmed when you're angry, let him have a space. That does not mean he will not talk about it. In those cases, it is best to take advantage of some other quiet moment during that day to talk again about what happened. In this way, you will feel heard and together you can discover the reasons for your anger and be able to prevent it the next time.

- Provide him with tools to express his anger: It is important to ask how you manage to do it to convey it to him. The first impulse when we are angry is to be aggressive: hitting, screaming, hitting ... Therefore, try to channel it in a way that does not hurt himself or others. To do this, you must counteract doing activities incompatible with being angry, to be possible artistic or manuals to get no more anger feed with their negative thoughts such as drawing, writing, making crafts ... Each child should explore what is yours.

- Teach him how to burn the extra energy that anger gives him: There are several options, but it has been shown that sport helps a lot to release tension and also allows you to disconnect from that tense moment for which you are living. In addition, the mere fact of moving away for a moment from anger will get you to reduce your intensity a lot and see it from another point of view. Getting that extra time to distance yourself is very important. For example: going for a jog, going on a bike, stretching ... On other occasions, yoga and relaxation get the same benefits in those specific moments as they get them to increase their control over their body and manage it calmly by breathing .