Ten Parent's Purposes for 2017

Being a parent is one of the most complicated jobs in the world. Nobody is born knowing how to educate them and normally learning is based on trial and error, so a new year can mean facing a new stage to correct failures and seek new purposes to improve our relationship with them. In Guíainfantil.co

In Guíainfantil.com we leave you the most desired purposes by parents for 2017.

10 good intentions for parents in 2017

1- Spend more time with my children playing: This is more important of the parents' intentions especially in the big cities. It is important that the time we spend with them is of quality, that is, really dedicated to children. Better to spend half an hour playing than three hours making the purchase.

2- Shout less and have more patience: Parents complain about the deafness of their children and not to yell more or repeat the same order the children obey better. Many times the trick is silence, so the little we impose will be more effective than if we constantly give them orders.

3- Listen and talk more with the children: Patience and dialogue should be the basis of teaching and of our learning as parents. Do not repeat the mistakes of our parents and learn to dialogue with our children, they will surprise us with their understanding.

4- Be more consistent in decisions and teachings: Many of the orders we give our children are inconstant, depending on whether we are tired or not. If we say that they pick up the room every day, but there is one in which, because we do not argue with them, we pick it up, we will be spoiling everything we have achieved in this regard. We must be able to keep our promises and our punishments, so they will learn that they can trust us because we are not going to cheat them and respect our sanctions.

5- Establish realistic limits: This purpose is especially important for parents of adolescent children. You must establish limits according to your age and be willing to negotiate and give a little. We must act calmly when children get us out of control because they do not want to obey and be reasonable, without "giving lessons to learn".

6- Encourage them and be more positive with their attitudes: A child who is constantly being reminded of their faults, or who is only scolded for their bad actions, reinforces their own mistakes, and lowers their self-esteem ; While if we just ignore their correct attitudes and praise their good behavior, the child will probably behave well to get our attention.

7- Prevent television from being a nanny: A limit should be placed on the hours children should be in front of the screens: computer, television, tablet ... Set a limit and respect it, and allow time for them to discover themselves another type of more imaginative games.

8- Spend more time with my partner: Once you are a father, the children occupy all the space and time. Rarely can you be alone with your partner, and more difficult to go out to dinner or to the cinema without having to watch a cartoon. Find one day a month to make a break, or at least to have a coffee alone and avoiding conversation about children.

9- Do not be too protective of our children: It is okay to take care of them but if you do not give them the opportunity to make mistakes they will never learn. Let them be self-sufficient, mature and face for themselves problems that they could solve on their own. They must find their own tools to get ahead.

10- Relax and enjoy your little things more often: One of the best things about being a father are those little things that surround childhood: to see him snack and sprinkle chocolate all over his face, paint his hands and face with a Marker, see them able to play even with the wc paper roll, develop the imagination, see them smile, pay attention to their crazy occurrences. Enjoy it all you can! It will end faster than you think.

Patricia Fernández Editor of Guiainfantil.com