All parents are concerned that our son or daughter will become the target of a bully, whether at school or elsewhere. We are worried that he does not know how to defend himself or that he does not have the necessary tools to protect himself from the emotional or physical attacks of this type of chil
All parents are concerned that our son or daughter will become the target of a bully, whether at school or elsewhere. We are worried that he does not know how to defend himself or that he does not have the necessary tools to protect himself from the emotional or physical attacks of this type of children.
How to prevent my child from being harassed
1. Self-esteem: Prevention is key in this type of situation and if there is something we can do for our children against the aggressions or intimidation of other children before they happen it is " vaccinate them "against them. One of the vaccines with the highest protection factor is called self-esteem and it is created and strengthened in a warm, safe and stable family environment, free of family violence where authoritarian or overprotective parental styles have no place.
Self-esteem is the ability to love, value and respect yourself, accepting yourself as one is. A good self-esteem is intimately related to the development of a good self-concept and adequate social skills. Key factors to relate appropriately with oneself and with others, which makes the child an assertive person and not aggressive or passive.
The strengthening of self-esteem enables children to defend themselves, to assert themselves and therefore to get rid of their stalker. When the child has a good self-esteem is more able to deactivate the harassment of his attacker.
In order to strengthen the self-esteem of our children it is necessary to avoid being too rigid or authoritarian with them, fleeing at all times any kind of physical or verbal violence. When parents show behaviors such as those described above, children are likely to be shy, withdrawn, insecure, rebellious or aggressive. The former will be more likely to become victims, while the latter will be more likely to become aggressors or stalkers.
When the potential victim of bullying possesses a good self-esteem less weak points will have. Therefore, it is essential that the family provide healthy and loving experiences that allow the development of a healthy self-esteem and a positive self-concept that allow the development of critical thinking at any time of difficulty.
2. Assertiveness and empathy: are two other vaccines against bullying that we should encourage both from the family and from school. A free environment of bullying is possible if we educate our children and students to put themselves in the place of others, understanding their suffering. An environment free of harassment is possible if we teach them to express their opinions respecting the rights of others, to negotiate or to ask for help when they need it.
To avoid intimidating our children, it is necessary to vaccinate them with self-esteem, empathy and assertiveness.