The ideal relationship between parents and children

These days I have been talking with my Venezuelan friend about the education of our children, we are both worried about some bad behaviors that children have at some moments. We are worried about certain behaviors and we wondered if we were to blame for these attitudes. At the end of the day, althou

These days I have been talking with my Venezuelan friend about the education of our children, we are both worried about some bad behaviors that children have at some moments. We are worried about certain behaviors and we wondered if we were to blame for these attitudes. At the end of the day, although children have their own personality, they act driven by what they see or hear. Children are sponges, they learn from what they live.

What is the ideal relationship of parents and children?

Wanting to educate the children as best as possible, parents are wrong and I, I admit wrong. I try to do the best I can, but I do not always get it. I do not fit into the permissive mother model, perhaps I tend to be more strict, than not authoritarian. In any case, my intention is always to be moderate, to be at the midpoint. This led me to wonder about the ideal relationship between parents and children. Should we be the parents friends of our children? Is it better to distance and respect us? Which educational model is better: the permissive or the authoritarian?

Too many questions, so I went to Silvia Álava, a child psychologist and a contributor to GuiaInfantil.com, to find out her opinion on the ideal relationship between parents and children, on what is the best way to educate them. The answer was clear: the education style of the parents has to be balanced.

When parents are balanced and have clear rules to follow and limits to be put, they are able to transmit them to children in a positive way and children acquire these rules and limits.

The psychologist explained that the style of permissive education, in which there are no rules, no limits and children can do whatever they want is not suitable for children. Permissive parents are educating children who can not tolerate frustration because no one has ever told them no. They are children who do not have a security model in their parents, they can not trust their parents, because they think they are stronger and have more power within the family environment.

Silvia Álava explained that "it is very important to establish this model of parenting where there are clear guidelines, clear limits, and clear rules and that parents are figures of trust and security. authoritarian style, not much less. " Our pedagogue explained it to us in a clear way: it is so bad to be excessively authoritarian, as excessively permissive.