The shyness and embarrassment of children

Shyness does not appear until 2 years old. From this age, the child begins to be aware that others evaluate their actions and that they can realize their mistakes and even laugh at them. At 3 or 4 years of age, children attach great importance to the opinion of others and when faced with people or s

Shyness does not appear until 2 years old. From this age, the child begins to be aware that others evaluate their actions and that they can realize their mistakes and even laugh at them.

At 3 or 4 years of age, children attach great importance to the opinion of others and when faced with people or situations new or different from their closest family environment, which gives them security, they may feel uncomfortable. When trying to cope with these "complicated" situations, the first signs of withdrawal or shyness may emerge.

What hides the shyness of children?

Yesterday was my son's birthday and my 4-year-old niece did not want to get on the phone to congratulate him because he was embarrassed. At other times, when we all stay to eat, she always cuts a lot right in the welcome greeting and hides behind her mother because she is ashamed to say hello.

We all wonder why this behavior, this shyness. And while for us it is absurd, for her parents it is increasingly worrisome and they do not know what to do to help the girl overcome her. Generally, the culpa introverted character el was the culprit for the shyness of the children, but behind other shyness other constraints may also be hidden. When this shy behavior is confined to a specific circumstance, it is not necessary to worry or make alarms go off, but it is fundamental to pay close attention to the child and give him / her security to avoid possible behavioral problems in the future. These problems arisewhen the child begins to present relationship difficulties with both adults and their peers

, runs away from strangers, literally sticks to their reference person or does not want to do new things. 'It will pass ...', is the phrase we have heard the most when we are perplexed to this type of behavior by children. And this popular belief has its foundation. Parents should keep in mind that as the child matures he learns to relate better andthis type of feeling reduces or loses intensity with age

. On the contrary, if they are maintained and even intensified, as the child grows up, he becomes more aware of what is lost by not doing what, deep down, he would like to welcome his friends or relatives, go to a birthday, playing with children you do not know or raising your hand in class because you know the answer to the question. This sensation generates suffering and has a tendency to worsen when the child shows little skill in some concrete facet, begins to acquire complexes and, finally, enters a spiral that leads him to forge a negative idea of ​​himself and low self-esteem.Marisol Nuevo.

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