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The consequence of not letting him do things for himself, helping him excessively in some tasks in which he has demonstrated ability, insisting on doing the tasks between the two, leads to an interpretation on his part that he is not able to perform the tasks by itself and instead of understanding t

The consequence of not letting him do things for himself, helping him excessively in some tasks in which he has demonstrated ability, insisting on doing the tasks between the two, leads to an interpretation on his part

that he is not able to perform the tasks by itself and instead of understanding that it is a help, it develops fear to do things by itself and it becomes insecure. Characteristics of the unsafe child

1. Low self-esteem:

He does not dare to do some things on his own because he does not believe he can do them well. Therefore, he will not participate in class or in any activity. He is a child who is very afraid of making mistakes and disappointing others and is always thinking that 'it is not worth anything'. Reserva 2. Reserved when expressing their feelings for fear of being criticized or rejected.

3. Lack of autonomy: That means that parents will have a great dependence to carry out any activity, from choosing what they are going to wear to brushing their teeth.

4. Passive style to face conflicts: Faced with a decision, it will prefer that others choose or delay the decision in time and as a consequence it will cost him to interact with other children. Dis 5. Decrease in academic performance:

Problems of concentration in the studies and organization, it is very difficult for you to start because you must choose which course you should start and also assess which is more important or more urgent to attend. Therefore, they will take a long time to get to make a decision and lose time without progress in their studies. 6. Increase in anxiety

when there is something to decide.Knowing that you will have to make decisions, causes you to generate great tension (much more than other children of your age) and necessarily ends up somatizing in the body through vomiting, headaches, muscle tension, stuttering, digestive problems… . Al 7. Alteration of sleep:

When we talk about alterations, we refer to great restlessness to go to sleep, it can reflect it because it can talk asleep (somniloquy) or night terrors or it will not have a continuous sleep and sometimes it can be accompanied by crying I would either like to go to sleep with your parents or ask you to have the light on or the door ajar. At other times, it may cost you to simply go to sleep and go to find excuses not to sleep (like reading a story or what they did today) or going to get upset about going to bed. In this sense, he develops all those characteristics not because he is afraid of the dark but because of not being accompanied or because he does not want to think about the decisions he is going to have to make alone. Tips to improve safety in children -

The routine will get you more confident, since it will allow you to get ahead of what is coming. Decisions are already taken and your ideas ordered.

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Increase your autonomy: Give up little by little the responsibility of making decisions without you having to give approval to every detail, it will help you to take less time to decide. The environment is crucial to promote greater security and if you propose alternatives to decide between two things, it will get you to develop this skill easier. -

Improve your self-esteem: If you do not decide, it is also because you think you do not have enough capacity to do it or think you will not make the right decision. So motivate him by telling him that he can do it and transmit that security that he lacks. -

Reduce criticism: Sometimes, we encourage you to do something but if it does not make it perfect or how we would like it, we immediately point out your mistake and how you should do it right. By doing this, we think that we help you not to get confused, however in unsafe children, that requirement will only make the child distrust that he can do well and do not try again to not feel judged.