Why the bad temper of children
When we talk about temperament or personality we must take into account the genetic load and the environment that surrounds us. When a new member arrives in the family, we take care to get him similar with some of his members, for example: 'he has the eyes of his mother' or 'he has the ears of his f
When we talk about temperament or personality we must take into account the genetic load and the environment that surrounds us.
When a new member arrives in the family, we take care to get him similar with some of his members, for example: 'he has the eyes of his mother' or 'he has the ears of his father'. But, really, the most clear inheritance is that of the temperament of one of their parents.
What is the temperament of children
The temperament is due to processes of the lymphatic system and the endocrine action of some hormones. It is what makes us react in one way or another depending on the situation. It has to do with the ability to adapt, and the mood. And it is directly related to the nervous system.
Due to this temperament that we bring with us at birth, which remains throughout life and manifests itself independently of the treatment and education we can draw two consequences :- The parents of a difficult child should not be blamed thinking that it's because they're doing it wrong.
- What is good for one child may not apply to another. So we will have to treat them differently.
Non-genetic components in the temperament of children
When the child begins to come into contact with the environment around him, he begins to form his character. The culture and education that have to do with the family style, school and friends that are, will be the
components that influence the temperamental basis with which he was born. Thus, the way parents educate their child will determine their character and, together, temperament and character will build
what we call personality .How to educate a child with a bad temper or character
If we have a child at home who is angry at everything, he is intolerant of frustration, etc. Most likely, you will feel short of boundaries, insecure or with sentimental confusion.
Anger
is one of the emotions that cause the most imbalance in people and how parents should teach our children to handle it. Parents must use the environment, that is, the way to educate them so that they learn to cope with their environment. Some tips to keep in mind to help them when they get angry: -
Thinking that anger is neither good nor bad , is only an expression of frustration when expectations are not met. We must avoid saying: 'do not get angry', 'do not scream', 'do not hit'. And, on the other hand, to indicate that getting angry is an emotion that we can feel, but when we feel it, we should vent it in a place where it does not affect third parties or ourselves.-
Do not be intimidated by tantrums , tantrums or anger of children. If they feel intimidating, then they will have won their battle. As parents we must be firm, never hard, just firm. The firmness consists in having in mind what is going to be done, and thus proceed with the child even though the child is in chaos. The father must show that he has control of the situation.-
Avoid talking when the child is angry , you can explain that we will talk to him when he is calmer. If you are still angry ignore it until it calms down.- You have to teach limits to children and with them routines.
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Cultivate empathy with them. When they are violent, wait for them to pass and then ask them questions about the consequences of their actions -
That there is communication so that the children feel more secure. It is important to talk about what makes us angry and then let the child see the way in which we solve it, taking it and playing with questions and answers until finding a friendly and successful solution with others.
