How to detect if our children are victims of bullying
During childhood, children fight, in many cases they get angry and even insult themselves. It is not that these behaviors go unpunished or that they have no consequences, but neither can they be confused with bullying. To talk about bullyng, there has to be continued harassment in one child's time t
During childhood, children fight, in many cases they get angry and even insult themselves. It is not that these behaviors go unpunished or that they have no consequences, but neither can they be confused with bullying. To talk about bullyng, there has to be continued harassment in one child's time to another. It is not a punctual fight, normally, the aggressor has a provocative behavior and permanent intimidation.
Detecting if the child suffers bullying
Bullying can be sexual, when there is a siege, induction and sexual abuse; it may be a social exclusion when the other is ignored, isolated and excluded; it can be psychological, when there is persecution, intimidation, tyranny, blackmail, manipulation and threats to the other; and it can be physical, when a beating is hit, pushed or organized.
School harassment takes place in schools. As it is, for the most part, an invisible harassment for adults, the teachers will hardly have knowledge of what is happening through the parents. The aggressor harasses the victim in the bathrooms, in the corridors, in the dining room, in the patio, reserving his actions during the absence of elders. In some cases, ac the bullying goes beyond the walls of the school , becoming telephone and even by email.It is important that parents always maintain an open and positive communication with their children, and with the school, in this way, we will make the children feel more secure and can tell their reference adults what is happening to them.
However, we should be vigilant if we detect some signs in the child:
Changes in their behavior. 2.
Mood changes, sadness or irritability. 3.
Sleep disorder. It costs more to sleep and usually has nightmares. 4.
Changes in eating habits: eat compulsively, or lack appetite 5.
They have psychosomatic symptoms. They often have somatic pain such as headache or gut pain without an organic cause to justify it. 6.
Present physical signs. Keep an eye on it if it appears frequently with blows, or scratches and say that it has fallen .7.
Continued rejection of the school. When you verbalize that you do not want to go to school, again and again, especially on Sunday afternoons. 8.
Presents problems to relate and isolates. The child protests against going on excursions or cultural visits, does not want to interact with his classmates and wants to be accompanied at the entrance and at the exit of the school. 9.
Changes in school performance. The child may begin to be disinterested in studies. It will lack not only interest as well as concentration and attention. Attitude of the parents against the bullying of their child
If we have detected that our child is a victim of harassment, the first thing is not to blame him or ourselves, that does not mean being worse parents. It is important that the child feels safe and confident in their home, that there is a good
climate of trust where they can vent and tell what is wrong. Another fundamental step will be to talk with the school, sometimes they can ignore what happens because the aggressions are carried out in the absence of the adult.
It is important that the child has social skills and resources, not only focused on defending themselves, but also on being safer. That learns to be assertive, to be able to say what he wants, what he thinks, without imposing it on others, and knowing that his opinion is as valid as that of others.
That he learn to ignore the aggressor, that he does not show that he is affected by crying or getting angry, but that he can respond calmly and firmly, saying, for example: "No, that is only what you think".
Let him know that he is not alone and that he can always ask for help.