Children who bother and annoy others
Sometimes children can be annoying. Over 4 or 5 years teasing or nagging others are acts that produce a sense of power . The child does what is happening to him and thus feels that he controls the situation, what satisfies him. When this behavior is sporadic we do not have to worry about it. But whe
Sometimes children can be annoying. Over 4 or 5 years teasing or nagging others are acts that produce a sense of power. The child does what is happening to him and thus feels that he controls the situation, what satisfies him.
When this behavior is sporadic we do not have to worry about it. But when he repeatedly shouts and complains, mourn, annoy his brothers, chew on other children, or even bother animals and insects there may be a problem.
Why some children are so 'chinchones'
They act like this not because they are bad or cruel, but because until 6 or 7 years old, children do not know how to put themselves in the shoes of others, nor do they understand what they can do with their children. contempt
If our child behaves in any of these ways we should not be alarmed. We can do a lot to make him a respectful child and stop bothering.
What to do when my child bothers other children
Many times children who bother classmates do so to avoid being disturbed, to attract the attention of others, to download frustrations that they have at home or have personal characteristics that make them less tolerant. Therefore, we must act at home, because although it seems an educational problem where we can blame the school, sometimes the problem does not originate there but at home. But how to act?
1. Observe it: the child shows changes or difficulties in other areas of his life and we do not realize it. Observing it is likely to get to the root of the problem.
2. Do not judge them: a clear and close communication will be very useful, while a conversation full of reproaches or punishments will not achieve what is sought, since the latter generate anger and with it the opposite effect.
3. Accompany emotionally: be interested in their topics and be available to share with them when we get home.
4. Set limits.
5. Offer you options.
6. Have patience.
7. Communication with the school: ask the teacher to inform us of how the child is going to have a vision of the progress or setbacks of our children.
What happens when my son annoys his brother
On many occasions the brothers have a tendency to get upset. Usually they do it without intention, but there are children who do it with the intention of annoying the other. This can affect the parents who must mediate in the conflict.
Different strategies can be used to identify which of the two is bothering the other:
- Discover why they bother each other. There is almost always a reason that explains it. Think of the situations in which children get upset with each other more often in order to know the reason.
- When parents come to mediate, children often blame each other. Investigate well since not always 'the fault' is the same.
- Give each child a space and something to occupy their time. Sometimes they just get upset by sheer boredom.
What to do if the child bothers the animals
- Let him know that dogs, cats and any animal have feelings and suffer if it hurts them. Explain how you should approach them and treat them.
- Teach her what they are for and how she should act with insects (she may have silkworms, for example).
- Give him an example. If you respect the animals, he will also do it.
If we see that these behaviors are repeated or do not cease in time we should consult with a specialist. A psychologist who can guide us and help our son.
