4 Ways to improve children's self-esteem

Self-esteem is the judgment we make of ourselves, of our physique, behavior, thought, way of doing things or feeling . When we see children acting with confidence and others who do so with many doubts, we can immediately know how each one's self-esteem is. What does this depend on? Much of how their

Self-esteem is the judgment we make of ourselves, of our physique, behavior, thought, way of doing things or feeling. When we see children acting with confidence and others who do so with many doubts, we can immediately know how each one's self-esteem is. What does this depend on? Much of how their parents treat these children and how they label them.

And we tend to label children for what they do, we usually say phrases like 'you are very bad', 'you are awkward' or any other derogatory qualifier. Many times we do not realize the importance of words about our children and how what we tell them, they absorb, observe and apply to their day to day.

Tips to stimulate the self-esteem of children

Therefore, if you want your children to have a good self-esteem and be happy you have to observe that all the judgments and affirmations that you make them are positive. To achieve this, follow these 4 tips:

1. The importance of attitude. There are four attitudes that parents can carry out with their children and depending on them, our children will develop good or bad self-esteem:

- I am well, you are well: it is about not judging the child, only accepting it and love it as it is. It is the basis that we must use to encourage and stimulate self-esteem in the child.

- I am well, you are wrong: we use it when we criticize the child.

- I am wrong, you are well: we inadvertently feel that we are victims of our children and transmit messages such as 'I can not stand you', and they feel unloved and respected.

- You and I are wrong: it ends with great cries between parents and children and it is the worst attitude we can carry out.

2- Let your child be himself:When we think about our children, many times we do not realize that they are people who must develop, think and feel for themselves. We do not let them do and follow their criteria. It is very important that they develop their own personality and way of doing things, so that they feel respected for being who they are and thus have a high self-esteem. Ref 3. Reinforce your self-esteem

: it is important for parents to demonstrate that we have high self-esteem, so we must think about what we do well and share them with our children, not from arrogance but from pride. In this way, children will have a model of how self-esteem can be reinforced because we are mirrors in which they set themselves to copy behaviors.4- You only want your children:

If you ever do not know what to do or how to proceed with your children, just love them unconditionally, so that they feel loved and protected, and that allows them to be themselves and take the best they have inside. Video on how to improve the self-esteem of children

Matti Hemmi

Self-leadership specialist