The sense of ridicule in children
Shame, shyness, the sense of ridicule are interconnected feelings that begin to experience around the first years and evolve during development. They appear as evolutionary mechanisms that help children adapt to the novel. Why children have a sense of ridicule Certain situations in a child's life ca
Shame, shyness, the sense of ridicule are interconnected feelings that begin to experience around the first years and evolve during development.
They appear as evolutionary mechanisms that help children adapt to the novel.
Why children have a sense of ridicule
Certain situations in a child's life can lead to the appearance of these kinds of feelings: a change of house, the arrival of a little brother, the beginning of daycare ... In general, this stage of shame, shyness or sense of ridicule is transient lasting only a few weeks.
There are studies that show that 15% of children are born with a predisposition to be shy. Although this is not decisive. What is important for the evolution of these feelings is the positive or negative intervention that parents make throughout the development of their children and the environment.
How shy children are with a lot of sense of ridicule
The shy child usually shows the following attitudes:
- Try to avoid people who are not familiar.
- They prefer to be alone, rather than join a group.
- If they are with other children, they are usually very quiet and not very participative. Se - They are afraid and suspicious with everything they do not know.
Parents should be alert to these signs, in order to try to avoid that these early signs of shyness may increase and later lead to a difficulty in establishing social relationships.
How to help children with a lot of sense of ridicule
Self-esteem plays a fundamental role in this aspect. It starts to be built during childhood and it will be modified during its development depending on the experiences it has and the reactions it provokes in itself and in others.
The reactions of parents, relatives, teachers or friends to what the child does are important from the emotional point of view and those that have the greatest impact on self-esteem. Therefore, it is the people who are closest to the child, who can influence
the child's greater self-esteem and with it, less shyness and that the sense of ridicule does not appear as a problem. How to help them? -
Do not put labels , not even to excuse their behavior. The more we tell him and hear that he is shameful in front of others, the more he will be convinced that he is and the longer it will take to overcome his problem.-
Do not force him to do what he does not want . Forcing him to kiss or show how well he does something increases his insecurity and, therefore, his sense of ridicule.-
Lead by example. Explain to the child, in very simple words, that we are also ashamed to ask questions of strangers, such as where a street is, and then go to a person to indicate that address. -
Enhance your relationships with other children. Being close to your peers and relating will help you work the sense of ridicule positively.
