Why there are couples who separate when having a child
Having a child is the most beautiful thing in the world because after nine months of waiting at the end of the world comes that little person who will make the life of a couple of a turn of 180ºC. Before having a child it may seem that everything is idyllic, the couple has all the time for themselve
Having a child is the most beautiful thing in the world because after nine months of waiting at the end of the world comes that little person who will make the life of a couple of a turn of 180ºC. Before having a child it may seem that everything is idyllic, the couple has all the time for themselves, they can do whatever they want and enjoy each other.
But when a woman becomes pregnant, the first thing that a couple should do is to talk about the future sobre, about the things that concern them in terms of parenting, the role that each one will have depending on the life they lead (work and time available from each, etc.) ... and make a plan about how life will change and how the two will face it together, to create a family that has a base with values and that, in addition, they can both go the same way . When this does not happen and couples do not talk about their relationship when the baby is born, things can go awry because the relationship after having a baby can change dramatically.5 causes of couple crisis after the birth of the child
Post-delivery depression. Postpartum depression can begin two days after giving birth and can last about two weeks. In more serious cases, depression can become a serious problem that lasts longer. If a solution is not sought to this serious and real problem (that the woman realizes that there are no problems in her or in her partner and baby), it can be cause for separation.2.
Lack of communication . Sometimes fatigue and lack of sleep can cause a couple to stop talking to each other because 'there is no time for that', 'the important thing is the baby'. It is true that the important thing is the baby, but if a couple does not have communication it is possible that the relationship is broken to the point of breaking.3.
Father's jealousy . There are times when parents feel displaced because the mother can only focus exclusively on caring for the baby, even making the father feel a zero to the left. This is dangerous because the father as well as getting jealous as a couple can get jealousy as a father. A mother must accept her role, but also that of the father and give her the prominence she deserves.4.
Economy . Being a father costs money and this is something that must be clear before beginning this adventure. You have to make numbers before the child is born and know how they are going to face the expenses. If this is not clear, the economy can choke a couple to the point of separation because the discussions can be a constant. It is necessary to speak things calmly and remember that a couple is a team in life and never opposing teams.5.
Paper in the home . When a baby is born, the mother must necessarily turn to her care, causing home chores that she can not do for lack of time. The couple must be clear that both are a team and that the housework should be shared equally, but if during the first few weeks there is no time to do things, nothing happens. We must recover from the fatigue of the first weeks of being parents, without reproaches and without 'I do more than you' or 'I am more tired'.