How to educate the cheating child
When the child is 6 years old, he already knows perfectly what is a lie and a trap and also knows how to use it for his benefit. While it is true that at an early age children can lie for other reasons, such as avoiding adult reprisals, it is after six years when children can lie knowing that they a
When the child is 6 years old, he already knows perfectly what is a lie and a trap and also knows how to use it for his benefit. While it is true that at an early age children can lie for other reasons, such as avoiding adult reprisals, it is after six years when children can lie knowing that they are doing it and therefore use the traps to be able to win in games. And is that using traps is almost the same as lying.
Why children cheat. The negative part
Children have a great imagination and do not know the negative consequences that lies have so they think that cheating is not so bad if they get what they want. It is for this reason that parents should place great emphasis on teaching values to children such as honesty and trust, values where lying is totally forbidden and totally unacceptable, and if they cheat other children and adults will not want to play with them because they will lose confidence.
When children cheat, other children will not want to play with them, they will be left behind and will think they are liars. When a child feels the need to cheat is because he feels the need to be approved by others (although it gets the opposite). Think that if you cheat and do not get caught, then you can win and be better valued by others. All this shows a great insecurity and lack of self-esteem in his personality.
The good things of cheating children
But not everything is a bad thing as cheating children have other positive parts that should be valued and empowered so that they realize that they do not need to cheat to be accepted by others . Children who cheat generally have very positive aspects, such as:
- They have a great mental capacity. They are able to use their creativity and imagination to be able to cheat. They are really ingenious and can have a great art for dissimulation.
- React quickly. They are able to react quickly in the face of adversity, a very positive capacity that must be strengthened in order to face whatever comes in life.
- They have a good resolution of the problems. The child who cheats has a good ability to solve problems, but must learn to focus on the positive part.
Tips for educating cheating children
Parents who have children who cheat should see them as children who need guidance from parents so they can better follow the path. In this sense, it is not worth thinking that they lie or that they do not do things well, but rather that they have to promote the good parts they have so that they realize how well they can do things and thus increase their self-esteem. For example:
- When a child cheats you have to make him see that others will not want to play with him because the game is no longer fun.
- Teach him values as important as trust and give example of it every day.
- Find activities so that children learn to play by following some instructions and respecting others.
- Teach children through example. If parents do not want children cheating, the last thing they have to do is cheat them.
