The favorite son

This is a topic that at least is quite tricky because no father will admit (at least in front of his children) that they have a favorite son. Or at least they should not do it. They say that favorite children do not exist but in some occasions there are parents who do say openly that they have a favorite child, something that without a doubt, can be equally harmful for all children, both for the favorites and for the 'non-favorites'.

It is not something that should be said but it happens, although it is also true that all children love each other very much. When you have an only child you think that when the brother is born, how is it possible that you can love a child as much as you love the first? Yes, you can.

Favoritism in children

Favoritism is difficult to manage but you have to be consistent, for example if a child is asked to do chores for another brother because he is sick, this is not favoritism. On the other hand, when a child has to do housework while the other plays and does not do anything and parents allow it, it is certainly favoritism. When a child gets good grades and has a prize, it is not favoritism, when a child does not deserve a prize and he gets it, we are back to favoritism.

Favoritism in children can manifest itself in many other ways, for example, if there is a fight between siblings, the father will always be on the side of a brother in particular and the other will receive more punishments or reprimands even if he does not deserve it. Parents can boast of a particular child while the other only reproaches their faults without considering their achievements ... or even compare them among themselves, in front of them!

Why some parents have favorite children

Some reasons that can cause favoritism in parents can be:

1. The birth order. The oldest child may be the most beloved because he is the first or the smallest because he is the most spoiled. Sometimes parents can also take as a favorite a child who has the same birth order as their own because of their experiences with siblings.

2. The genre. Depends on the gender that parents want in the family can unconsciously choose the one they preferred in pregnancy.

3. The personality. The personality also influences the favoritism of the parents because they may prefer to spend more time with a sociable and talented child than another who is more rebellious or 'trasto'.

That parents have favorite children is something painful for the brothers, for this reason, as parents, you will have to be coherent enough to be able to love your children equally, because love in the heart is not divided, it multiplies.