Vanity in children

When children begin to experience different situations in life, it is very common for them to begin to have contact with the positive values ​​ of human relationships: friendship, generosity, empathy ... However, there are also 'counter-values', such as envy, greed or even vanity, which are also pre

When children begin to experience different situations in life, it is very common for them to begin to have contact with the positive values ​​ of human relationships: friendship, generosity, empathy ...

However, there are also 'counter-values', such as envy, greed or evenvanity, which are also present in their development.

The presence of vanity in children

When someone is vain, we rely on the fact that they worry excessively about their physical appearance, their qualities or abilities, and continually praise them in the face of others. Although loving yourself is something fundamental in life, it is true that exceeding in this area can cause problems of personal relationships.

When a child is aware that he stands out in something, it is important that he knows and sepa that he knows how to reward himself , but it is also true that those who presume too much tend to count over time with the rejection of the rest accused of feeling superior.Although it is natural that when someone is known to be good at something, he himself should be exalted, there must be a balance so that neither the talks nor the acts focus only on the

extremely positive of the person in question. How to help children control their vanity

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Be clear about positive concepts : For children to control their vanity, it is necessary to be clear about the relevance of knowing what they are good at, but knowing the boundary between the positivity that comes from self-esteem and the danger of going overboard. When they know that they have to brake on themselves they will begin to concentrate on their own humility.-

The importance of improving : For our children not to be presumed with their beauty, with their ability to perform some activity or their ability to develop something creative, it is important that we make it clear that they can always improve, and that no one is perfect, but that mistakes are made and that everyone has the right to develop what they are good at.-

The danger of compliments : Many times, we have to recognize that children would not realize that something is particularly good for them if everyone around them does not constantly remind them. Although it is good that children see reinforced what they are very good at, it is also necessary that not all family members, friends or teachers praise it in an outstanding way at every moment.-

Empathy towards others : When a child is very good at something, or all those around him constantly tell him that he has an imposing physique, this can make him believe that others are inferior. Empathy towards others is essential so that self-esteem does not pass to haughtiness towards the rest.