How to create a bond with the children in an adoption

An element that usually worries the adoptive parents is the creation of the bond, that is, establishing a firm and secure relationship with the child in which he trusts sincerely in you, that you will always be there and that you will never leave it. One of the most determining factors when establis

An element that usually worries the adoptive parents is the creation of the bond, that is, establishing a firm and secure relationship with the child in which he trusts sincerely in you, that you will always be there and that you will never leave it.

One of the most determining factors when establishing this link is the age of the child since a baby is not the same as an older child who has a conscious memory of the ruptures of other bonds and / or other relationships that supposed safe.

How to build the bond in adoption with a baby

When the child we adopt is a baby, the first step may be easier because the care and attention you need makes the child bond more quickly with you and thinks that he can not talk to ask for things or express himself, but that does not mean that he will not have a process in which to assimilate that rupture and new bond .What is that moment? Well there will be several: when other children are born, when the day of the father or mother is celebrated, when you have to make a family tree in class or in adolescence. That moment of crisis in which all children face bodily, hormonal changes and begin to look for themselves to define themselves. It is the moment in which his personality is formed and

when the adopted child begins to consider who he looks like , what are his traits, and above all, where are his origins, why did they leave him and all that frustration will be transformed into tensions in your relationship and that is when you must behave like that pillar that contains you in all that vortex.How to build the bond in adoption with an older child

When the child who is adopted is no longer a baby, he is aware of the process, he knows that he will have a new family and he knows that his biological parents can not take care of him correctly .

Has been a victim of negligent care or humiliation and may have passed through foster homes or families, which translates into a long series of losses and new adaptations which makes the child insecure and afraid of facing let him leave him alone When an adoption is given, the first moments are usually perfect: the child needs you to want it and will behave like the ideal child but in a forced way. The moment you start to really feel like part of the family, it will be when you begin to see behaviors not as ideal as you would like: disobey, test you, provoke you in front of families and friends, ...

All this, which is easy to take you out of your boxes and make you despair, means that the link is being created correctly because the child is relaxing and will allow you to enter into that plot that jealously guards. It is an exercise in patience, tenacity, and calmness; a lot of calm You must handle the whole process with great calm, be calm and not enter into provocations.