Have a biological child and adopt

Sometimes a family decides that the time has come to grow and have a new member, how? Well, having a child that can be biological or adopted. Adoption is one more form of paternity or maternity and, therefore, a decision of you and / or your partner if that is the case. It is normal for you to ask y

Sometimes a family decides that the time has come to grow and have a new member, how? Well, having a child that can be biological or adopted.

Adoption is one more form of paternity or maternity and, therefore, a decision of you and / or your partner if that is the case. It is normal for you to ask yourself certain questions about what it will be like to bring a child from home, how it will be together, if you will get along with your other children, if you will like it the same, if others will treat you equally ...

Changes in the family after the arrival of an adopted child

The first thing you have to think about is that your new child will get along well with the rest of the family even if they argue and fight, that you will love them and that it will be one more member That is the approach you must have although it is normal that, when preparing the way for the arrival of the youngest of the house, the peculiarities of the adoption must be taken into account in order to explain to the rest of your children how it will be that new brother.

Of course that explanation will depend a lot on how old your children are but just like anything else you want to make them understand. It is important to differentiate in order to make them understand the new family change:

1. If my older children are biological and the new member is going to be an adopted child. In these cases, the best way to prepare for the arrival of the new sibling is to involve as much as possible your older children in that adoption. Talk to them, point out the reasons that lead you to make that decision, look for information on the country of origin of the child you are going to adopt, the customs and traditions ...

2. If my oldest children are adopted and the new member is going to be a biological son Although in this case it is not always possible to predict a pregnancy, incorporating the child into the development of the same is fundamental. We must always bear in mind that, as we have said on previous occasions, an adopted child is a child who has suffered losses and they always generate insecurity: will they stop loving me when they have their son of 'truth'?

Therefore, we must insist that both are going to be our children, that there are no "real" or "false" children, that we will love them equally, that they will be brothers and it is very important that they be given a responsible role, as an older brother who has to take care (as with biological siblings) but insisting much more on how much he loves him. Let us think that he is not just a dethroned prince, but a prince who had a hard time believing his throne and therefore, the fear of losing what it has been hard to achieve is greater.