Educating a child with a rebel becomes an intense job that can end up being exhausting for parents who are faced with a systematically disobedient and capricious child, who does not abide by nor accept limits. A child who always tries to be right or get away with nothing more than his own satisfacti
Educating a child with a rebel becomes an intense job that can end up being exhausting for parents who are faced with a systematically disobedient and capricious child, who does not abide by nor accept limits.
A child who always tries to be right or get away with nothing more than his own satisfaction. Patience, consistency and consistency in educational guidelines can turn a situation that is becoming untenable for all family members.
Causes of children's rebellion
- Education: Among the possible causes of child rebellion are theeducational styles too authoritarian, lax or overprotective that end up generating attitudes of rebellion, disobedience and disrespect to any authority either by excess or by default of norms and limits. Otros - Other factors:
In addition to the educational styles, in children's rebellion, other factors such as genetic, biological and environmental factors may influence and concur. Negative Defiant Disorder is the most obvious case, as could the case of a child who suffers from the controversial Attention Deficit Disorder with or without Hyperactivity (ADHD) But not all rebellious, disobedient and defiant children suffer from these disorders. We know that in the vast majority of cases, rebellious children are due to a constant need to explore the limits(both yours and ours), children who may be lost and scared who need
to attract attention his behavior such as may be the case of a child who is jealous of his brother. Jealousy can be one of these causes if not managed properly. Having said that, we must always take into account the age of the child, since the rebellion of a child of 2 or 4 years is not the same as that of a child of 10 or 12. In each case we must act in a different way and adapt our system of norms and limits at the child's age level. Consejos 8 tips to educate a rebellious child In the vast majority of cases, rebellious children need only be clear about what they should do and what the consequences of their transgression or lack of respect for others (whether or not they are adults or authority figures). In this type of case we must: 1. Act firmly but without authoritarianism.
2. Establish clear and well-defined norms, it is not necessary that they be many, we can start with 3-4 simple rules and always appropriate to the child's age level. For example:
the drawings are seen after doing the homework or collecting the toys, after playing everything is collected, the dirty clothes go to the basket
it is eaten with the cutlery
... When they learn to follow them we will incorporate others. Dar 3. Give orders one at a time when they are small. No 4. Do not enter the provocation or yield to their refusals to obey, simply apply the consequence we have established for each case, if possible natural consequences instead of unsuccessful punishments such as 'you are left without ...'. For example, there is no clean clothes if you do not want to shower, clean what you have messed up when you have thrown something wanting...
5. We only warn once, not two or three in older children, give more opportunities means giving the opportunity to continue disobeying until they take us to the limit, which we want to avoid. No 6. Do not contradict or contradict our partner with the limits or consequences that we put. Ser 7. Be a role model, so we should avoid shouting, criticizing, belittling ...
8. Encourage active listening, share family time, understand what may be worrying you (fear, jealousy, problems with peers ...) In case of extreme rebellion or if we feel overwhelmed, we should consult a child psychologist, who will assess the situation and help us find the most appropriate ways to resolve our case.