How the age of the child influences adoption

Surely when you have told the people around you that you are expecting an adoption they have asked you many questions: why do you do it, where is the child from, how long does it take? ... and how old it is going to be. And regarding the latter, you will have been told that the smaller the better. T

There is a widespread belief that the smaller the child, the easier the adoption will be, and this is true ... half-heartedly. What is certain is that the older a child is, the more difficult it is to find a family and much more if accompanied by brothers or sisters.

Why it may be easier to adopt a baby

1. He has no conscious memory. The fact that the child does not remember things assures you that he will not tell you about his biological family, he will not compare you with his mom or his old dad, his siblings, his toys ...

2. He does not have 'bad habits' . By bad habits we understand customs of their place of origin referring to hygiene, food, response to events, displays of affection ... what will make it easier for you to teach the importance of bathing, eating vegetables, kissing Good night ...

3. Babies awaken more tenderness than older children. Everyone likes babies, everything they do is funny ... and they want to take care of them. Older children already have manias, behaviors that we can not control, that are spontaneous and that often have to be corrected. In addition, they already have their personality formed, their character, they have defined their tastes, their preferences ...

4. Parents feel them as their own. Having the child since childhood allows you to have the peace of mind that there is nothing in your life that you do not know and identify before what a crying means, what scares you ...

5. We can compensate for deficiencies before. By having a smaller child you will have the peace of mind that since he has been with you he has had all the necessary care: vaccinations, diet, school, pampering ...

6. He is not so emotionally hurt: although all his life will go with him the fact Having been adopted, the damage will be less than if, in addition, it has passed through several centers, host families ...

Advantages of adopting an older child

1. Knows what an adoption is and what it consists of. The child can already say if you like them as parents or not, something very important to take into account in the legal formalization of the adoption.

2. You can treat yourself one-on-one without having to make an effort to find language or content adaptation as if you had to talk to a younger child. You can talk about anything more calmly and knowing that you can already reason to explain how your family works. He can express himself freely to tell you what he likes, what he does not like, what he is afraid of ... so that you can help him adapt.

3. You can share more activities, more hobbies than when a child is younger.

4. It is more independent and autonomous. You do not need continuous supervision as a baby and it is very likely that you have learned to fend for yourself.

5. She knows her own story, her biological parents, so even if she has pending issues from her previous life, she has more answers than younger children who are given up for adoption. También 6. You also know

your own medical history : you can tell us if you have any allergies, you know what's wrong with you, if you have had any fractures, some operation ...